[honeybee]

I have been seeing a guy for a bout 6 weeks now, we see each other quite often during the weeks and at the weekends, and last weekend i made the decision to sleep with him for the first time, i really like him and am wondering when is the right time to ask where our relationship is going and how to ask him, any surgestions would be great. Thanks

[angel-lou]

In my opinion 6 weeks is way too early. Don't worry too much about the future as long as you're enjoying yourselves together that's all that matters for now. If there's something more there then it will become clear in time, but sometimes if you're desperate for a meaningful relationship, your judgement can become clouded and you may look for things that aren't there.

I would relax and enjoy eachother afterall when it gets serious that's when it becomes mundane and the hard work and effort starts (believe me you have a lifetime for that!)

Hope it works out and he is your prince charming after all, good luck

[Guest]

i agree, 6 weeks is early. 6 months may be a bit more appropriate.

[KMonte85]

I disagree with the other posters. If you've been seeing each other regularly for 6 weeks, genuinely enjoy each others company and see yourselves taking things further, then the time is right. There shouldn't really be a "time stamp," more it should be relative to the feelings you have for one another. Not to mention, if you are serious enough about each other that you are having sex, then it may be time to start thinking about if you want to become exclusive or at least get that discussion out of the way so you know for your own sexual health reasons.

It's not like you have to ask the guy if he will marry you and father your children in the next year. You just need to get an idea of where you both see yourselves, either with each other exclusively or not. That will help clear up any foreseeable problems with the sexual relationship too. It would be good for you to know if he is interested in dating (and potentially sleeping with) other women so that you can properly protect yourself.

Ask yourself, is he acting almost like he's your boyfriend? like, always eager to see you and hear from you? Does he always make time for you or at least make an obvious effort to make time for you? If yes, then I think he's giving you the signals that he's into you and it isn't out of the question to see if he wants to take it to the next level. If no, then he's probably not ready for anything exclusive yet.

You should be casual about.. getting super serious may scare him off. bring it up to him that you really like his company... maybe hint around to see if he is dating anyone else... mention to him that he's the only guy you're seeing and you really like him. Ask him if he sees you two as being something exclusive or if he is enjoying the casual dating scene. Straight forward, but not overbearing...