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i try to help my BF about the serious problem. But he always said that i didnt get anything... Actually, i do, i try to explain but he doesnt understand me. He always yelling me and hurting my heart a lot. NOw he ignored me, didnt talk to me. I dont know that he still love me like he said or not

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Has he always been this way?

Some guys don't "want" to communicate or dont know "how" to communicate and therefore, use excuses to get out of having one, definately the "ignore" comes into play.

They don't "understand" women's thought patterns and why they need to discuss personal things and they don't want to.

You may not be able to change this, it may be a pattern of who he is.

As for love, that's not a part of it. That you should be able to tell by the way he treats you.

But, seriously? He's always yelling at you? That's no good for you at all... Sounds like you two aren't "matched"...

What does he at or how? He's never been physical I hope.

CW

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Yes, he does. and after he was yelling me he left himself alone and me, i just watched tv and find out the way to fix the serious problem. It took a long time then he walked to me and said some joke to me but i didnt say anything because i was angry that time. Then we left each other for many hours. Finally, he walked back and said that getting dress we have to go some place. Then we went in the room for getting dress he said that if you want to leave me then go because you were still be in the bad mood all the time. i didnt say anything as i really hurt very bad... during that in my heart hurt and i thought i gonna got rid of my staff and leave. then i walked pass him, he puled my arms and hold me then i cried, he said stop it and hold me for long then i dont know what is he thinking... he still love me?

[Sprite]

Only he can be the one to answer your question...and I'm sure if he really does love you, he won't have a problem with you needing reassurance.

Men like to go off to their little caves to think about their problems, and will only often talk to a woman about it if they are seeking advice or blaming her. Often if they are just left to sulk for a while, they usually spring back to their normal selves. It's difficult for us, ladies, because we often like to talk about our problems with the people we trust, just to lift the weight off our shoulders and to make us feel better, and we often forget that men are very different.

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I really dont know he still loves me the same or he is gonna change... sometimes he feel like he loves me and cares of me but sometime he ignores me. When i feel blue he came to me asking me what wrong is it. I dont know how i gonna tell him. Just minutes ago, i watched Tv with him, i put his arm on me, he hold and spanked on me like he did before... then i asked him that why during this time you didnt hold me often like before he said like a joke "coz sometime you smelled like a buffalo died for year" then he said stopped and laughing... Then i asked him again he didnt say anything and pulled his arm back then i left and access internet in the room. After that, he came in the room and asked me am i okay, i said yes!! ... now he ignored me again... im very confused!!!