[hayleyf605]

i was with this guy for a couple of months( first guy who ever showed any interest in me), he said it wasnt my fault but he couldnt be in a relationship. that was a couple of months ago but i just can't get over it, i love him. im beating yself up about it, feel really low about myself, any advice?

[kaylar]

nope


This is the kind of fixated crush that is the hallmark
of youth and the shame of middleage.

You mean nothing to this chap. You're just
another person.

Maybe he was nice to you because he thought
you'd give him sexual satisfaction, or you reminded
him of someone else, whatever.

I can tell you of a chappie who came in, claimed to
fall in love with Carole, moved in with her, lived with
her for three weeks, then went back to England.

Carole was an 'all-inclusive' as far as the chappie was
concerned.

It was very hard for her to realise that he wasn't
coming back, he wasn't going to marry her, he wasn't
going to send for her...

[hayleyf605]

that makes me feel a million times better

[kaylar]

At least you are better off than Carole who went
around telling people he was going to marry her.

Look, people are like that. They will use other
people. Over time you get a little bit more
skeptical when people seem to sweep you off
your feet.

You start to wonder...okay...what does s/he want?

[Guest]

hayleyf605,

Maybe time will heal your heart. You might think of this as another way. Maybe he wasnt ment for you. You can use this time to enjoy concentrating on yourself. God will send you the right person when you have patience.

[hayleyf605]

thankyou im hoping ill get there in the end