[pretzel]

Somehow I knew someone would say this. The boundaries are well-defined, and I don't think that is the issue.

Well, given that, I'm fresh out of ideas.

[Fish]

Well, given that, I'm fresh out of ideas.

Haha me too!

[Guest]

i dont know if it really is possible unless you are completely not attracted to them and vice versa. even then, as you become closer other feelings start to stir. someone you had no real physical attraction to you suddenly feel like you want to wake up with in your arms.

i dont know. is that necessarily bad? having feelings for someone because you two have become close, instead of just a date that went to 3rd base???

I have one friend i have been very close with for 23+ years and would do anything for. we've never dated, made out, etc. but i do think there is something there, some kind of attraction, even though I am definitely their type. i also know that if anything happened, it would not be just sex for either of us.

idk, maybe being platonic to start is a better way...

[sourpuss]

I have to disagree. I have a close male friend who is drop dead gorgeous. And the way we became friends was because I asked him out on a date. After hanging out for months as friends/flirting and the rare occasion of making out, we discovered that we were way more suited as friends. Although we're attracted to one another physically, there's nothing else there. I would never want to be in a relationship with the guy (and vice-versa, I'm sure)

He's far more attractive, physically, than my boyfriend but there's nothing there for me. We still spend a lot of time together but I don't feel anything more for him than I do for any other person that I'm just friends with. It's like hanging out with my brother or something.

[LanaBear]

I agree with sp... I have platonic male friends, no attraction whatsoever. To everyone else, they probably are attractive, but I just don't even see them remotely close to that way.

[Hopeless Dork]

I think it all is dependent on sexual attraction/ chemistry... as to whether or not a platonic friendship between a man and a woman can be true.

A lot of guys (and girls) will hang on to a platonic friendship with someone they are secretly sexually attracted to with the hopes that one day that person will fall for them... imo... that isn't a true friendship. It has all the appearance of one, but it also has alterior motives. Eventually when the object of their affection, this platonic friend, gets involved with someone... its too much for their heart to bear and the friendship ends.

Or sometimes they stick around and put themself through agony boardering on massochism just to have said person in their life.

I think for a friendship to be real and true in the sense of caring for someone without expectation... it is not something I see that could exsist between 2 people that one or both are feeling chemistry to the other or each other. Either it will become sexual, or it will go sour at some point.

[Mes T]

Well... UGGGHHH... Then how am I supposed to feel about my boyfriend being so close with various girls, most of whom are what I consider to be very attractive??

[sourpuss]

Does he include you when he spends time with them?

[Mes T]

Yes, when it's in person. But they communicate so much by email, facebook, etc... I mean I have no reason to believe he's unfaithful in any way, but it churns my stomach, thinking that some of them might be ATTRACTED to him or vice versa! Blaaargh.

[Guest]

and there's no other guy that you are even remotely attracted to?