[mikailas88]

I came across an interesting article yesterday and it inspired a few questions that I thought I'd take a poll on to get some idea about. I'd like to give an explanation for why I'm asking this, but I'll refrain till I get some responses so I don't bias answers (I guess I do remember something from psych 101!)

This question applies mainly to the ladies that have had more than one serious relationship.
Thinking back over romantic history, would you say that kissing, going on dates, and sex are as exciting and memorable the very first time as they are the first time in a new (but second or third, etc.) relationship?

[samanthatallon]

definatly, without a doubt, its like a drug, the new feeling is exhillirating, you have a flush in you cheeks and everything is slightly awkward. Amazing. But the honeymoon period wears off

some of my bfs though i have forgotten about and this post, reminds me. lol.

[samanthatallon]

Its called normal logic, we always run through the what ifs, maybes and perhaps. Its the way of thinking when your human and go through a traumatic expierience with a loved one. Not all people cheat, and there are some real good ones out there, just be patient and when the time is right i am sure everything will be just fine, all the best for the future. x

[WildChild]

First relationships tend to be a clumsy and awkward, you are learning and growing. As you get more experienced the nuances become more important. One day you look back with some indulgence at how naive you were.

[mikailas88]

So it sounds like by different you mean clearer-minded about what's good for you and what makes you happy? Is there the same passion and excitement as in the first one? I've gone out on a couple of dates but they all seemed a little lackluster (though maybe I'm just not quite ready yet).

[Mes T]

With the right person, yes there's been the same passion/excitement, if not more.

And yeah you're right, with experience you definitely realize what makes you happy. For me I've now learned the difference between love and obsession... it was more the latter for me, with my first boyfriend.

In your case, you could be not ready yet as you've said, or the people you've gone out with just haven't been for you, and that's fine. Trust me, one day you'll meet someone and all those feelings will come back, maybe better than before.

[samanthatallon]

agree with mes t and good luck!

[mikailas88]

Thanks guys, thank you for being supportive. This has really helped!

[Hopeless Dork]

Don't feel like you've wasted all your firsts and that you won't get to experience those feelings ever again because YOU WILL. And when you fall in love again... the first kiss with that person, the first everything you do will be just as, or likely MORE exciting. Its about the person you are with, the chemistry you have... that makes the relationship passionate, exciting and stirring up all those good feelings.

You haven't gotten on your last few dates because those guys were not the right match for you, or like you said... you just aren't fully open to let someone in. When you are ... trust that it will be just as good... better than before.

The relationship I am in now has more passion and excitement than any I have ever been in. Its not the first for either of us, we're not planting ANY flags on each other... but every kiss he gives me makes me have butterlies, when he looks at me ... I still blush. The feelings are so good, amazing, intense... I've never had that before in previous relationships. But I imagine even if I did... they wouldn't take away from the feelings I am experiencing now.