[Hopeless Dork]

I don't see the necessity of printing them... unless you are planning on leaving him, I don't think rubbing his nose in it like a bad dog is going to provoke conversation that will lead to resolution ... I think it will instead provoke humiliation and indignity over the snooping then the audicty to print and wave in his face basically.

I do think you should take what he said to your mind and consider that these are very likely his real feelings. He's anonymous, he was likely speaking his truth as he felt it. Was the pushing down the stairs comment said in jest, i know thats nothing to joke about ... but does he have a sarcastic dark sense of humor sometimes? If not, I'd be super concerned with that. I watch enough Court TV to see that there are men out there that do unthinkable things when they feel their back is against a wall.. if you have any reason to fear for your safety or that of your baby , you should definitely consider calling it all off.

I think you should tell him what you read, (my vote is against the printing, but thats up to you).. because if you don't its just going to eat away at you, you need to know if his feelings have changed since then... and what was going on in his mind when he felt that way.

For me personally, the fat comments etc... it would be hard to get out of my mind and to move forward in a positive way. I'm too insecure a person and Id wonder too much if he was faking that he was happy with me when deep down he thought of me as a pig. Hearing him say those words would hurt me to the core... and there are men out there that would worship your body, not insult it on a forum for a few 'lol's' from guys that don't give a darn about him.

If you had never read those forums would you be happy in your relationship? Or were you digging up dirt because you felt something was amiss? Does he treat you good? Does he make you feel special and beautiful and loved?

[auntie_awesome]

I say print them only because she'd be able to take those directly to the counselor. There is no he said/she said about the comments then, only what was actually posted online. No one can say "I didn't say this" or say she's lying. Unfortunately after watching two family members go through something kinda similar, I think no matter what, hard proof is always needed for something like this.