[curious525]

I cant stop thinking about this girl...
It's driving me nuts and i want to stop. Is there any methods to let go of your ex ? Seeing other people helps but now and then she somehow sneaks in my head. I dont know if i still love her but she still puts butterflies in my stomach. I need a womens advice on getting over someone you care about.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You know as silly as it sounds, until you find someone "better" and a woman who means something to you, she will still play on your heart it's because you need, your lonely, you said yourself "your not sure if you loved her"...

Keep dating ok..

CW

[SurferGal]

Totally agree with the above....

Going through it right now too...

[PandaPaws]

If you haven't already, take down stuff around the house that makes you think of her. Sometimes it's nearly impossible to get everything when you've been together for a while, but do your best. Take all that stuff and put it away somewhere like your attic or basement.
Keep yourself busy. Keep dating. Do not try to find out what she's up to via friends or online - Facebook, etc.
And while there may be many good memories, for now, try to focus on the not so good ones, and the reason why you broke up.
I know, all is easier said than done, but good luck
I have learned to say to myself during a break up, "If THAT wasn't the guy for me (someone who I thought was awesome), I can't wait to see who God really has in store for me (because surely he'll be better)! " Or at least I try to tell myself that

[IchMoiMe]

I also agree with Chandlers Wish in that probably won't be until you find someone "better" than her until you can have your heart back. And all of the points that PandaPaws made about what to do in the meantime (i.e. - not trying to keep up with what she's doing, not having things that remind you of her around, focusing on the reasons you broke up, etc.) will definitely help in their own ways too.

One thing to keep in mind is that intimacy kinda binds you to a person for a bit, that's human. And even after a really really REALLY dramatic relationship, those feelings of intimacy (and therefore the bond) doesn't dissolve right away (unless maybe betrayal or abuse, etc. was the reason for the breakup.

While you get through this, make an earnest effort to be around people. Maybe not so much mutual friends (because they'll likely remind you of her too) but your own friends, family, and new potential girlfriends. Don't take things too serious with new dates if you are not ready for something serious yet (no pressure there), but the point is that getting out and being social will definitely help to get your mind off of her. And the longer you can manage to do that for, the easier it will be. As they say, time heals all wounds, it's just a question of how you help that time to pass.

It'll get better curious, you'll see


Oh, and by the way - DON'T contact her .