[chaya]

Do men talk about sex with their SO's when they're with "the boys"? My SO is a little shy about sex, but when he is with his work mates, he might not be. If they talk about sex with their girlfriends or wives, would he talk about us (me)? I know some girls do talk about their relationships, my sister used to tell me everything about here "conquests". She knew I was a virgin and loved to embarrass me with graphic descriptions of sex. If I thought he did talk about us, I would be self conscious and/or embarrassed when his friends come over.

The reason I ask is 4 of his work mates are coming over Saturday for dinner. One of them that was here before will be with them. When he was here before, he looked at me like he knew something about me, or was it just my imagination?

[LanaBear]

Probably your imagination...

Generally, once a man becomes part in a trusting, long term, respectful relationship he is not going to get into conversations like that. May they talk about when the last time they had sex, possibly (not very likely). Men, I just don't think are that open about it with their buddies once they mature and get out of the 'conquest' age.

[caterpillar79]

I don't think a mature man shares intimate info of his SO/wife/GF - it's a breach of trust. Men want respect and trust from their SO and I would vouch that they'd hold your intimate things to themselves, others even treat it sacred. you know what I mean?

You shouldn't be self-conscious. If his co-worker/s look at you, I bet it's full of admiration, and envy - of how lucky your husband/SO is for having you.

[bob_smith]

ok, when I was a teenager, yea, boys brag about their sexual conquests and if you're not getting any you need to be ashamed of yourself. when a man becomes mature, no, it's not something you talk about. they only thing you can talk about is what you did in the past. but to ask my best friend how is sex is with his current wife or girlfriend would be a definite no. if my friend wants to bring it up, that's ok, but if he did i probably would not ask further questions. just let me volunteer any info he wants.

[Guest]

Gentlemen don't. For the most part, that includes most men, until proven otherwise. As was stated above, once we grow out of the "conquest stage" of our lives, it's not something we want to share with others. Quite frankly, most of us don't want to hear it from others either.

You ladies share and talk about much more personal things then most men do(including sex). Men tend to keep intimate details of our lives private.

So I don't think you have anything to be concerned about when your friends come over.

[chaya]

Thanks to all of you, I feel better about it already. I've been worried about the upcoming dinner party and this is one thing I can quit worrying about.

Being new at this wife/partner relationship, I haven't learned the ropes yet. I just don't want to mess up and look like a dumb teenager (which I am). My biggest worry is that I'll do something to embarrass my new husband in front of his friends and fellow workers. He offered to just get pizza delivery but I wanted to cook dinner, now I'm not so sure. I even worry about what I should wear.

[rcoreyus]

I've almost never discussed a lover, mine or someone else's with someone (not on an anonymous group like this). The one exception was a friend of mine telling me about his BDSM relationship with some women - and I considered the comments to be in bad taste. It all depends on your social group, but in mine, this doesn't happen.

The guy who was looking at you probably thought you were very attractive - and was a bit jealous of your husband. A lot of men get funny expressions when they are in the room with a beautiful woman.

For your other comments: DON'T WORRY! You are not some new purchase he is showing off - you are his wife, his partner, his love. Don't worry what to wear - if it is informal, wear what you normally do. If it is a "formal" dinner party (doesn't sound like it), then wear a nice dress. You don't need to show off for your husband (he already loves you), or for his friends.

As far as cooking - do whatever is easier. To be honest, when my wife and I have friends over, I prefer to order pizza, that way we can both spend time with our guests and each other, rather than working in the kitchen. Your guests are visiting to see you, not for a fancy dinner - the can go to a restaurant for that.

Of course I don't know you, your husband, your friends - so I have no idea what might have been said. Most likely though nothing improper has been said, and you will all have a nice relaxing get-together.

[WildChild]

Make a nice big salad, set the table nicely, maybe buffet style and order pizza as the entre. Make sure the bathroom is clean and then relax. You are a bride, fresh, lovely and sweet. No one is going to think anything other what a lucky man your hubby is.

[Colorado]

Make a nice big salad, set the table nicely, maybe buffet style and order pizza as the entre. Make sure the bathroom is clean and then relax. You are a bride, fresh, lovely and sweet. No one is going to think anything other what a lucky man your hubby is.

Agree, nothing wrong with doing pizza - YOU should be able to relax and enjoy the evening, the same as everyone else who is there.

...and on your initial question - No, we find it very rude, disrespectful, and completely tasteless for a guy to talk of his private life amongst us.
Anyone who does this is just extremely immature, and your future husband to be doesn't sound like he fits that bill.

You don't have anything to worry about.

[Ashlee T.]

A man that loves you is protective of you, territorial to some extent as well. Men know how other men think....and they don't typically want their buddies to know their intimacy with their wives/SO's. They might mention "getting some" but not likely to go into any details about your sex life.

I've found that the guys that do that, are usually the ones that are really not getting any.