[Ashlee T.]

Bleh...he's using it as ammo when he wants to huff and puff. He initially told you not to worry about it. You, if I recall, felt horrible about it after the fact and told him....but it doesn't seem he feels guilty about going to strip clubs. Double standard, and not cool. He's just using this as ammo against you. Don't you see that? :\

You didn't cheat. You didn't lie. And you didn't do anything he hasn't done. You were honest with him about it. What does he want?

[lizzardb63]

Well he didn't bring it up at all last night, so hopefully the issue has been dropped.

[WildChild]

So he's 3 up on you and using it as ammo?
Quit stressing over it, you are giving him validity for his behavior. The more upset you get, the more 'right' you make his being upset. I'll bet anything that what went on with some of those bachelor parties could make what you did look like sipping tea with your pinky up. Part of what he is upset about is that he KNOWS what CAN go on in those clubs. How about cutting a deal? No more strip joints for either of you?

[Casey715]

From your very first post about this you felt bad, like it was semi-cheating, and said you would never frequent a strip joint again. You didn't say anything about getting up on stage, but honestly, thats neither here nor there. So what if you asked him not to sit at the stage. If you had ever been to a strip club, you would know more can happen away from the stage. He is using this to his advantage. I have a friend who uses situations like this to his advantage. Once he can find something, regardless of how small or ridiculous, he will hold it over her head, and keep bringing it up every now and then. His SO is almost perfect, she is as faithful as the day is long. So once he finds this one little thing, he holds on to it because he may not get anything to use for some time. Then, when he screws up, then he will bring it to light once again, and use it to even things out. And she falls for it every time. Something like this would be like a golden nugget to him. When, for any other guy, it would be absolutely nothing.

And one other thing, and this really bothers me. You say he got upset because, let me get this right, because you didn't call him and get permission????? He's not your daddy, and he doesn't own you. My wife would slap me silly if I EVER tried to say she, a grown woman, needed to call me and let me know she was going out with her friends. Know what, she would probably just laugh in my face and tell me that I'm not her daddy.

You didn't do anything wrong. Don't let him hold this over your head. You told him you were sorry, what more can he want?

[lizzardb63]

Well it's just to the point where if he brings it up again, I am going to tell him to get over it.