[Little_Miss_Me]

So, the dreaded F-buddy. I'll call them fun buddies, just for the heck of it.

I've got a couple conflicting ideas here, and just figured I'd vent them to get some other opinions.

I've never had a fun buddy before. Ever. And if I did, it would kinda be like a relationship, simply because I don't really want to be the sort of person that sleeps around. I just would know from the beginning the "relationship" is going no where, so I won't dare to get my hopes up. Personally, I like the idea.

I've been single for a couple months now. I'm a very, very sexual person. It doesn't have to do with "making love", and almost has everything to do with getting down and dirty.

Heart wise, I'm still attached to my ex. I've dated, dated, and dated. I could pick Brad Pitt apart in one date and convince myself I want nothing to do with him, that's how much my heart is still attached to my ex. I don't see it changing anytime soon. I'm also in a situation where I see my ex everyday, and will for at least another 6-8 months. Things are good between us, we're fun and flirty, and everyone swears he wants me back (but I know him -- he goes after what he wants without hesitation, and he would've brought "us" up already).

Some of my girlfriends want me to take -him- in as a fun buddy, which, I'm sure I could do, but in a way it feels like if I do that, he'll never want me for a serious relationship? (The ole why-buy-the-cow thing).

Also, if you've ever had one, would you suggest someone who is already a friend, or some random? (Although, I have a problem getting down with a random person..)

[WildChild]

What seems to happen is that one does get emotionally attached and gets hurt. And it seems to happen that the male assumes he will call the shots. It can easily become more of a booty call than a buddy.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Life is what you make of it and we live it by choice...

He hasn't asked you to go back with him, but nor (commend him) has he asked to sleep with you either,rather been a friend...

So, to me, if he's moved on, you should too. Nothing can be accomplished by going backwards, it sounds more to me as if, you sooo want sex and your morals are making you think, do it with "better the devil I know", or a way in hope that it would bring you back together, or both...

I think it's perfectly ok to be a woman... Choose your partners for "equal" needs, no one gets hurt....But as WC says, once, bitten, usually your smitten....

Sometimes a safe one night stand is the better option...

CW

[kristalyn_04]

No, I don't think it's a good idea to get into an FWB (friend with benefits) situation with your ex, simply because you still have an emotional attachment to him. There's no doubt in my mind that you would end up getting hurt.

As far as FWB's go, I wouldn't do it with someone that is a close friend, because it can ruin the friendship and personally I wouldn't take that risk. If you want an FWB, it should be someone you are acquaintances with or someone you meet but don't see yourself becoming emotionally attached. That is always a risk with this type of situation, but you both have to be on the same page to avoid getting hurt.

[WildChild]

Personally, the problem with this is that sex lacks intensity without an emotional connection. Once you've had the intense gourmet experience, its rather hard to settle for the fast food variety. Even with a partner who is technically good, that only takes you so far. Guess it can take the edge off so you aren't so sexually needy but it's not really a substitute for a truly connected experience.