[sheba]

lets see... my bf of 3+ years is a marine stationed in japan! he has been gone for a month and a half, adn still has 22.5 months left! he is going to come home next may but that is a year away and i need him now.... all i can do is think about not having him and everything reminds me everything weve done together, it makes me so sad and deppressed. does any one have any ideas to cheer me up or somthing? talking on the phone just isnt enough... that is our only problem. we completely trust eachother adn the only thing we ever fight about which is seldom but is jsut over being frustrated from not being together anymore. ive got to see him 2 times in the last 8 months and that SUCKED but now he is gone a whole year, then another after that. i need him! does any one have an idea for me? please im always sad and crying

[tinkerbell930]

That's a tough one

I feel for you girl. Dating a military man would be difficult. The only thing you can do to help is get involved in lots of activities. If you go to church get more involved in some of the functions they have. Take up a sport. Hang out with your girlfriends more. Read lots of books. Does he have access to the internet? Write him lots of deep emails......other than that, there isn't much you can do. I know you can't travel with a military man unless you are married. Even then I don't know that you could be stationed with him. I am sure he misses you too....he just has a job that fills up a lot of his time....you need something to fill your time. I would feel the same way you did. I hate when my husband takes a 10 day hunting trip....that is NOTHING compared to the lonlieness you are feeling. Write him lots of love letters...those are always nice too....email is great because it is a pretty instant thing, but when you put it on paper and mail it, it is something he can hold.

[Little]

How often do you get to talk on the phone?
My fiancé is a Marine, but he is stationed at Camp LeJeune ... hasn't gone overseas yet. We get to talk on the phone nearly every day when he isn't in the field, and I know I'm so lucky for that, but it is still hard on me to be so far away from him.
I'm in a Marine girlfriends group on Facebook and it's very supportive. I suggest you meet other Marine girlfriends/wives/fiancées because there's nothing like having somebody REALLY understand what you're going through.
Also, something one of those women suggested was that you seperate "think about him" time from everything else time.
Good luck!

[lauralight]

If I were you

I'd insist on an open relationship, cause if you get lonely enough and fall for another guy, spend time with another guy, or sleep with another guy, you'll have cheated, and feel guilty forever!

[sheba]

staying busy sounds like a really good idea!!! we get to talk every couple days but for no time at all, cause when he get off work it's 3 am here or the oppisite. we are either coming or going and we dont get to actually talk talk. what is the group on face book? i think that would be a good idea. we are thinking about me going and staying with him for a month or so if we can afford it. that would be a good idea right? but as far as an open relationship goes i could never do that. he is really attractive or atleast he is to me and if we did that a cute little japanese girl will come sweep him off his feet. plus i dont think i could be with another guy. i would think about my bf all the time. also we both really want this to work. we plan on gettting married soon. this just sucks so bad. thanks for the replys though!!! it really helps

[Little]

If you search for Marines, you'll find tons of groups. As far as I know, they're all supportive and great.
I don't think an open relationship would be a good idea at all, for the reasons you've already said ... I'm the same way ... used to be a big flirt, but once I got together with my Marine, I just don't want to flirt anymore.
Good luck!

[rosalie87]

My Husband has deployed twice, a year each time. It is very difficult but I have found that being near family helps, I always move back home when he is gone. I got a job and tried to always stay busy. Take up some hobbies and spend time with friends, you can look for different types of volunteer work as well. I also went to the gym quite a bit, it helps with stress and takes your mind off of things, plus gets you looking and feeling great! I'm sorry you have to go through this, just take care of you, that's all you can do right now. Other than that, I can tell you you aren't alone, many women are going or have gone through this, you can make it and I hope he has a safe return home.

[LanaBear]

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