HI,
Alright i have been struggling with this one for a few years. My ex and i were together off and on for about two years. He was my everything ... at the time. He was older by two years we were in high school, we went through a lot together. As a friend he was great as a boyfriend he was crazy mostly. the other part he was pretty great. We had a really hard break up. he was out of school i was in school, our parents were determined to keep us a part. We yelled and argued a lot at the end, and well we didnt really grow apart we ripped apart.
Anyway.
IT WAS FOR THE BEST, he was bad for me as a boyfriend but great as a friend. When he was out of my life it took a lot to learn how to live again. I did stupid things with stupid people, and eventually got smart and found my husband whom i love very much we are more than friends we are built for each other.
If my ex and i had stayed in that hole of a relationship i wouldnt be who i am today. The question is, why do i still want his friend ship, and is it okay to be friends? Its scarey i have been staying clear for years now and we randomly see each other, its not a lost love thing or a desire, but i feel like the separation was so harsh, so much negativity that i feel we never got to say our good byes it was done for us, yes we were not in love as partners but we were great friends he helped me with tough issues, he was the one that had me talk about being sexually abused, that issue had locked me up for years.
All in all im sorry this is going on and on. the issue is im not sure how this will settle with my husband and i dont want to cause problems i just want to bridge that gap from a few years ago.
maybe im thinking too much and should just leave it alone.
Alright i have been struggling with this one for a few years. My ex and i were together off and on for about two years. He was my everything ... at the time. He was older by two years we were in high school, we went through a lot together. As a friend he was great as a boyfriend he was crazy mostly. the other part he was pretty great. We had a really hard break up. he was out of school i was in school, our parents were determined to keep us a part. We yelled and argued a lot at the end, and well we didnt really grow apart we ripped apart.
Anyway.
IT WAS FOR THE BEST, he was bad for me as a boyfriend but great as a friend. When he was out of my life it took a lot to learn how to live again. I did stupid things with stupid people, and eventually got smart and found my husband whom i love very much we are more than friends we are built for each other.
If my ex and i had stayed in that hole of a relationship i wouldnt be who i am today. The question is, why do i still want his friend ship, and is it okay to be friends? Its scarey i have been staying clear for years now and we randomly see each other, its not a lost love thing or a desire, but i feel like the separation was so harsh, so much negativity that i feel we never got to say our good byes it was done for us, yes we were not in love as partners but we were great friends he helped me with tough issues, he was the one that had me talk about being sexually abused, that issue had locked me up for years.
All in all im sorry this is going on and on. the issue is im not sure how this will settle with my husband and i dont want to cause problems i just want to bridge that gap from a few years ago.
maybe im thinking too much and should just leave it alone.
Get The Newsletter
Comment