[WildChild]

It sounds like you have resolved this issue by telling him to get out of your life. Good for you!!
Take some time to have fun with your friends and think about what you really want in life and in a relationship. There are many good, caring men in the world who value and respect the women in their lives, you don't need to waste time on the ones who are manipulative.

[oxy-moron]

Possibly you have been to heavily sheltered by your family. Like the others have pointed out he is not a good choice of partner but it sounds like you have some growing up to do.
Find a man closer to your own age.

[BabyGirl]

If you are truly 23 and a Virgin.. My Advise is To save your Virginity for the man that puts a weeding ring on your finger. For some reason you have saved that " special Gift " of yours for this long, it seems that you have a Morality or reason to not just Give your " Gift " Away ?

I think it is Admirable that you have saved it so far. I myself have a daughter, 21, next month that is a Virgin, saving herself from temptation, but more for the reasons that she wants to be Loved and In Love, Trusting in an old fashioned belief, That Her " Gift " is Special and not something to just hand out over Hormones or just because it's cool or to have experience .

Stick to your beliefs. If you wish to stay a virgin , do it. Be Proud and follow your Honor of Yourself.

You mention it always hurts when you try, Yes it hurts the First time to most Women. But my concern is that you keep " trying " with this guy. Or he keeps trying ?
when it comes to his saying he is used to sex every day and if he really Loves you and is willing to wait for you to be Ready to have a sexual relationship that has Meaning and Love and a Future together.

Tell him he does have Hands and that before he had his first encounter with a Vagina, he should remember how to use those hands .

But also , You do Not Love this guy. If you did you would not offer to pay or give him money for him to have Sex with another woman. You would ask him to be patient and use his own hands to relieve his sexual urges.

If his Happy~penis depends only on sexual gratification and insisting and persisting that you give up your virginity to him. Whilst he is still looking at other girls..
He is not your Loving Man. He is what I call a " HornDawg" The more Virgins or Sex on his Belt, the more he can " feel " Manly.
And as I and many others here, have been through the Motions and Emotions of Young Adolescents.. We all found out the " Hard Way " .

Been There , Done That, and trying to help you not make our Mistakes.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

We are not officially a couple, but I still consider him my boyfriend. He still allows me to see his phone and email, but he told me he will not be my boyfriend unless I show him I'm serious and actively do something to help his urge to sex.

You know that little gut feeling that warns you? Listen to it, as you have, each time you tried, it was for him, not you, not with love, not with this is it, the person, a confusion because he has charisma and that attracts you and the "older man" that attracts you, not the (inner person) that's why it stopped, through fear of "it's not right"....and you are correct.

He's blackmailing you to get you to lose your virginity to him.

8 Months, ex-girlfriends, an ex that he had you "on the side" but told her that you were a virgin so quit worrying, and in the end, she saw the real signs, he wanted your virginity, he was going to cheat on her, she left.

He had you too meet, your Mother saw the signs....

8 months for him without sex? No, no, no, you don't live together right? He is having sex....he's deleting messages....

Remember,

CHARISMA
CHARM
OLDER
WISER
CONTROLLING


Your heart will be destroyed if you go ahead, as he gets what he wanted and walks......


Keep it as "it's over"......

Charisma is a scary trait for vulnerable woman....

[jiji]

OMG!!
Something like happened. So I went to see him, he actually started running away from me. He said "Sorry but I will have to talk to you later." Then he RAN AWAY, like not even WALKED, he ran and hided-_- Then I couldn't catch up with him, but somehow on my way home I met him again, he was waiting for someone. Then he saw me walking towards him, he RAN AWAY again. I just couldnt understand how can a person be rude like that. I mean, you can tell me that you don't wanna talk to me or see me, but do you really have to run away? It hurt me like .

[jiji]

I couldn't stop crying about that

[jns]

I couldn't stop crying about that

You deserve someone better, who will cherish your tears, who will not run away.

Hugs.