[Sunflower89]

Hello,

I have been going out with my boyfriend for over 3 years now and I am so sure of us, I love him to pieces. For the whole time we have been going out he has been a chef, so has been working long hours and only gets mon/tues off. This was fine until recently as I was a student. However recently I have started a 9-5 job and as a result I only see him on a mon tues evening and I am often too tired to do anything.
He has decided he wants a career change, and has decided he wants to go offshore. He wants to do this for the money, not for the job.
So here is my issue, I want to spend the rest of my life with this man, however, I do not think I want to live the lifestyle of having him offshore. The idea terrifies me. I don't want him away for long periods of time.
But I don't know what to do. If anyone has any experience of this or just anything to say I would be so grateful because I don't want to loose him and I would never ask him to not do it for me.
I just don't know.
Please Help
Thankyou
xxx

[jns]

By offshore are you talking about working on an oil rig or a ship or what? What would be his work schedule?

Have you moved your schedule around so that Mondays and Tuesdays are uncluttered?

[Sunflower89]

He would be doing 3 weeks on 3 weeks off.
I have tried to but because of my work it is quite difficult as I work for a newsaper which goes to print on a wed so they are my busy days.

[jns]

It seems to me that you would be seeing him more often on such a schedule than you are currently seeing him. Also, he would not have as much opportunity to get in trouble other than what is allowed at his work site. Do you two communicate regularly? That is a necessary condition for a LDR and would be the same for this situation.