[wishy0uwerehere]

my boyfriend of one year and i broke up a week ago. i was insecure, due to both my own irrational mind and due to some stupid man things he would do that made me upset. it took a toll on the relationship. we both kind of beat the relationship into the ground, and it was hard to just see the good left. we were starting to get better, but i got upset when an ex texted him something weird and that was kind of the last straw because even after he told me the truthful explanation, i was still scared. he still loves me and i still love him. he isnt opposed to the idea of getting back together, but only if we were to both work on ourselves and our issues. but i asked him, "since youve been having such a hard time being happy, even when we WERE having a nice time together (which was 95% of the time, my irrational moments were only 5%), do you think that youve fallen out of love with me?" he said he really doesnt think so but he would think about it. anyway, hes been thinking about it for a week. and he says he still isnt sure. it shouldnt take that long for someone to know if they are still in love with someone else, should it? im afraid its time for me to move on, but my heart just wont let me because im holding onto that hope. i do think he COULD be the right one, so i dont want to move on just yet. but im afraid i should. i shouldnt be chasing after someone who isnt sure if they do or dont love me

[jns]

Will he change his mind and be OK with having children in the future or is he waiting for you to change your mind? I believe that was the deal breaker.

Get busy doing other stuff, such as work or going to college. If you occupy your idle time with things to do it will be easier.

[Ashlee T.]

It's too soon to be hard on yourself about moving on. At this point, a week after a breakup, it's totally normal to mourn a bit. Embrace it and allow yourself to mourn the loss so that you CAN move on. At the same time, realize that with this loss comes a million other doors for you. Accept the fact that this relationship, this man, didn't fit you. It's like that old pair of jeans you keep in your closet that you've outgrown. Even if you ever fit into them again, they'll be out of style anyway. So let them go so someone else can have em. You shouldn't have to make a relationship FIT.