[saniahere]

Hi everyone
I am 25 years old woman..I am happily married for 6 years..i had an elder brother ,who died in an car accident before 2 years..this made me very depressed ..
after 6 months of his death ,i called this man X thru fone ,he s my friends friend..we never met ,and we continued talking for somedays ,one day he asked me to send my foto,i sent him ,he told me i am beautiful,and he said he liked me ,he s happy talking with me ..to be honest i,i also felt very happy talking with him..and also he added he have a girlfriend but he dont like her,
sometimes he used to talk with me about sex ..
plzz guys dont think im bad ..i never used to talk or flirt with boys .. my husband also like me he never chat r flirt with girls ..and i love him very much..
so i had a dillema weder to talk with that X or not ..
one day he told me he planned to marry her girlfriend ..and he asked me money ..i told him ,i dont have money and i cant send ..from that time itself he was avoding me ..i told him to come for chat but he dint ,i know his yahoo password ,so i opened his id ,at the same time he was chatting and flirting with another girl ..so i just scolded nd torn him like anything ,,
bcoz of this man ,i just lost my sleep and gone mad ...
after some months he got married to her girlfriend..
and he sent me bunch of message to believe him and not to mistake him but i dint reply ..
but to be honest i cant able to forget him ..
plzz friends tell me wat can i do ..can i reply him r not ..
i know im doing wrong ..
waiting for ur reply guys
bye

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Sometimes when we are at our lowest we call out. We try to distract our mind.

I know you say you love your Husband but perhaps he could not emotionally be there for you for the length of time you needed to grieve over your Brother, so you turned to "fantasy" as that is what it is... Typing over key-boards to another male and living in the non-reality world.

It was filling a void.. You must find out what that void is with your husband... If it is excitment add it in, if it is emotions speak to him and tell him you need him and love him and explain what you need more of your marriage.

This man X.. Tried to get money from you, tried to get virtual sex from you, lied to you about not loving his girlfriend, he married her... This man is also living in fantasy but not just with you, as you noticed, he was able to do it to someone else, they call that, a Con Man...

Please do not speak with him anymore and put this behind you. Please find out the voids that are missing in your life, even outside of your marriage, friends, hobbies, laughter, love ....and go and work towards those.

CW

[saniahere]

HI Chandlers
Thank u so much for ur kind advice..
what i have done is not acceptable ..i almost forget him ..but i dont know for the past few days y i thought to chat with him again ..but i dint reply ..and yea im trying to continue my studies ..i thg then only i will get out from this ...
Thank u so much ..
take care..

[CHANDLERS WISH]

It doesn't matter that it is not acceptable.

What matters is that you hold your head up high and do not allow a CON MAN to gain things from you, that do not belong to him and what matters is that you find what you are missing and acknowledge that we can be happy and fullfilled in a marriage but it takes compromise and work

Keep studying and ignore this man ...

[saniahere]

Hi Chandlers
yes u r correct ..from now i have 2 be very strong..to not to enter him into my life again..thank u chandlers ..
ur advices always welcome for me
take care dear...