[janie82]

Okay I been with this guy since 2002. We live together but lately things are just bad. For example if I get money and I lend him some. He will stay out drinking with friends till morning return. I am tired of this what can I do. I do not want to ask my mom I don't wanna worry her.

[soldatka]

I don't know what he wants, but it sounds like he needs kicked into touch. Have you confronted him about this behaviour?

[janie82]

Yes many times. We are living together for a while already as a common law marriage. Hes the one that wanted to live together and suddenly out of nowhere he starts partying.

[lilly41]

thats no good why don't you try to talk to him and tell him if he keeps doing it you'll leave him? sounds like he's using you

[janie82]

Yeah thats what I figured his using me. I have a 3 year old with him but I am supporting her right now. His out again tonight. His been out 3 times this week. I just can't take it anymore. The wondering where the hell his at. The arguing I just don't what to do anymore. I am so stressed right now.

[sourpuss]

If you are the one supporting your child right now I think the best thing to do is move out on your own and try to get child support from him.
No sense in supporting the kid and him.
If you've been together for 5 years and have a kid together seems you must care about eachother. And you say that this started out of the blue? Has he made new friends that go out a lot, has anything changed in the relationship?
I think the best would be to move out and get some space between you. Sounds like he doesn't realized what he has and maybe not having it will wise him up a bit.

[waynebarnett847]

Actually I don't have idea too what he wants. But try to confront him so that you will know.