[SweetPeaches]

I dated my ex-boyfriend for 4 years. We recently broke up 2 weeks ago. Due to him wanting to find himself, he said he was unhappy for the last month of our relationship so he had to find the happiness instead of hurting me.
Well let's see we still have sex, we both have always love sex but we are afraid of doing it with someone else because we are very comfortable with each other.
And even if we don't have sex we still cuddle. Well yesterday when we were cuddling he said the "iloveyou" word. And I said what? and he answered sorry I have a headache. Look i'm really hurt because I still have feelings for this guy. But for right now I think it's best for both of us to be single and see what we want in life.

Well anyways yesterday when I was using his computer I stumble upon on a dating website and he had a profile. He just recently made it. I asked him about it and he shrugged. We are both single so he can do whatever he wants but still there is a little jealousy involved you know.

We get are getting along pretty good right now, but it's just a weird ex-relationship.

So my question is should I just move on and meet new people? or stay and work it out?

Be honest, I can handle it I need advice please!!

Thanks!

[ksalm002]

My opinion of the matter is if he wanted to break up to "find himself" and really thought the relationship would be better off, then he would not have a dating profile up. I'm in a similiar situation. I've been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years and I love him so much. We fell in love immediately. We moved in with eachother after 3 mos and all the excitement was lost and I too myself, like your bf, wanted to step back for a minute and find out who I truly am so that I could be there for my love like I hope for. I am only 24 years old and havent had a chance alone to really grow as a person individually. I moved into my own apartment this week and I'm hoping everything goes OK with us. I'm sorry your going through this, but he is having many doubts and thats why he wants to spend time apart. Sorry honey

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Please don't do the sex thing.

The only way to make a guy realise what he has lost, is to make him lose you.

If he thinks the grass is greener? Let him go and try for it.

If he finds out that it's not, let him hang for a long time to win you back.

He can't have his cake and eat it right? Why should you let him.

4 years is a long time for sure you are going to 'HANG ON' but, there could be someone better out there you haven't really professed your love here on this thread, nor his rather maybe it's time?

He is your ex. Go have fun and find you and what you want.