[LUSH22]

thanks for the responses. im new to this fourm and new to my city so im glad i have advice/support from ppl online haha. i geuss with my bf ive decided to not be mean/crazy about it but just not give him anymore money. it doesnt mean i wont buy us pizza every so often but im definetly being more wise to him "working" me for things. I knew how immauture he was when i moved here with him. Is it right for a woman to expect a guy to act different the longer/ more serious the relationship is?

[kaylar]

You asked about 'act differently' the longer a relationship
goes on.

In good relationships, it is a kind of 'working in', where
you learn each other's preferances. so you don't buy
a gallon of Chocolate when he is allergic or loves mocha.

In bad relationships it gets to the 'old shoe' style.
Where he doesn't care or do anything to please you
as if you're glued into his life and can come out unless
he throws you out.

Sure, there are rough spots in every relationship, but
they work out.

In bad ones, they don't. He doesn't care. So you can
tell him every hour on the hour that you don't like sugar
in your tea, and he'll put sugar in your tea. "I forgot"
he'll say.

He didn't forget, it meant so little to him he didn't listen
to it any more then he does to a tv commercial.

So one has to define the changes.