[janie82]

I am tired of my relationship with my boyfriend.We been together since 2002. We have one child. I am 24 years old and he is 33 years old. I am the mature one. The one who supports my kid. The one who pays for the food on the table. He supposely tries to help out but hasn't been working for over a month. He was working but stopped says he can't do the jobs because materials don't fit in his car. Excuses he always has them.

I had saved 1400 dollars for rent money and I lost it. I know he took it because his the only one that was around me. I haven't been anywhere. And last week he kept going out when he had no money around the time the money went missing. Its weird cause I had a dream that the rent money was gonna go missing. Today I checked and my money gone again. Not the first time this happens.His done it before taken money from me. I just wanna leave him but going to my moms is out of the question. She lives 6 hours away and I have no car to get there. Besides I don't think I can spend too long at their house because I don't want to get in their way.

What can I do? I have very limited money to move anywhere and I had to sell my car to pay for the bills. And he don't get embarrassed to ask me for money after I sold the car. When I had to sell the car cause of him. Him not working us getting kicked out of the **** house. So I had no choice. Now I am stuck home almost every week cause he goes outs with his friends. What can I do? I want to just take my daugther and run away far from him. Far from my family. My family is no support either.
My daugther is the only one I have and I am tired of her seeing me all sad and depressed.

[LUSH22]

he doesnt sound like a bf to me, is he spending your money on drugs ? Has he always been this way in your relationship or jsut lately ?

[sourpuss]

You need to set up your own bank account in your name only. DO NOT tell him about this account! Begin saving every penny you possibly can in this account. This may be a time when you need to suck it up and talk to your family about borrowing some money or living with them for a while until you can get on your feet.
You need to get away from him.
Good luck to you, I hope it works out for you.
Take care.

[majolove]

Have u ever got time to sit down and talk with him about your situation.

Sometimes men can act like kids and need to be reminded of their responsibilities and your expectations from them.

If you have done this before and yielded no postive results then the best you can do for yourself and the baby is to walk out. Yo need need the money to support your child and a man of his age who is still acting like a twenty year old obviously isnt the ideal husband.

For starters you can put up at your mom's place as you save money to pay for your own place. I know as already stated by you that the disance is indeed far, it is the only resort i guess you have left.

Besides if your mother is supportive, she is the best person to count on now. It is really going to be hard for you and you will need someone to cheer you up when the going gets tough sometimes.

wish you all the best dear.

[JubesInquest]

Janie,

As much as you don't want to live with your family, it may be a possibility. I know how you feel.

Your sperm-donor quit his job, stole the rent money you had saved, and caused you to have to sell your only means of transportation so that you could support your daugher! He needs a swift kick in the butt!

Anyway, as for you, since you are close to being kicked out due to him stealing the money, you have to make arrangements for you and your baby girl to live somewhere. Try asking your family. I know it will be hard, (trust me, I know EXACTLY what I'm talking about), but stay there (if they'll allow it) just for a short time until you can get money saved up to move into a place of your own.

I know how you feel: having to bunk-up with family, but sometimes things happen and as much as we don't like it or want to do it, we have to do it just to make it in these tough times. It doesn't mean you'll be there from now on, but just temporarily. I'm sure they may want something from you for you staying there, but give them SOMETHING to contribute towards bill and things.

Keep looking everyday for a good, afforadable place for you and your baby girl.
Now if it's not too late and you're still in the house w/the baby's father, you may be able to contact your social services office and see if they will grant you something to put towards a new place for you and the baby... an Emergency Needs thing; or you can apply for Emergency Needs while you're at the house you're already in so that you don't get evicted ----this will buy you some time while you look for a place for you and the baby. DO NOT INVITE THIS GUY TO COME ALONG!

They may also pay rent for you at the NEW place you find... you'll have to check into this and see what can be done.

If you can't get the assistance you need in the time you have, then you may have to go on and ask your family if you can stay there TEMPORARILY, while you seek other housing.

I hope things work out for you and your little one!