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  • adviceanyone
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    • May 2012
    • 44

    my ex boyfiend who became my FWB tried to sleep with my best mate.

    i have been sleeping with my ex boyfriend for a bit over a month now, when we get together its like it was when we were a couple.
    i slept with him two days ago , everything was fun and nice. however later that day he asked for a 3 sum with my friend i sent a text saying " no way is it going to happen , she is my best friend and you sre my ex boyfriend " , he wrote back " thats a shame".

    i got upset and sent him a text saying that i couldnt believe he would try that and that it hurt me. ( i recieved nothing back)

    he inboxed my friend , and my friend blasted him, told him wat a jerk he was..

    my friend feels so bad and i just feel so not good enough and dirty.

    i dnt want to have anything to do with my ex anymore, i hate him for what he has done to me , he has made me this vulnerable , lost person and i hate it.

    it hasnt stopped me wondering why he would do that to me though. he would no that it would really hurt. how can someone be that heartless and cruel? .. its like he really didn't care if he never saw or slept with me again.

    is this a normal thing for a guy to do??

    i have a major hatred for guys right now and i am just feeling so broken and lost
  • Aprilily
    Member
    • Nov 2011
    • 41

    I'm sorry you're going through this. I've always thought the whole fwb thing is a slippery slope, especially with an ex-I tried that once and it ended much the way yours has gone.This from your post: "when we get together its like it was when we were a couple" tells me you are still emotionally involved, and that is hard. From his actions I would say he no longer is, but still wanted to have sex with you. Some people are like that-not just guys. I think it is in your best interest to not contact him again-he knows he has hurt you and has not responded, time to let go...he is not worth your time. He is the one that is not good enough, not you. Just give yourself some time, this will pass eventually.

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    • KMonte85
      Veteran Member
      • Oct 2009
      • 3303

      advice, you've been fighting a battle with this guy for months now... how many times does he have to prove himself as a jerk before you stop punishing yourself by staying in contact with him and letting him use you?

      Don't you think you deserve better?

      I hate to be blunt, but this guy doesn't have the same feelings for you that you have for him. He's using you, and you're allowing it.

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      • mrmusic
        Member
        • Oct 2012
        • 21

        Aren’t men all alike? They are wolves who have designs on prettier and younger girls. You’ve got to take men’s words with a pinch of salt sometimes, in particular men who drip sweet-nothings. You should give the **** up on him.
        Last edited by KMonte85; 10-31-2012, 04:31 AM. Reason: no going around profanity filter!

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        • lauren922
          Member
          • Aug 2012
          • 20

          If he hurts you this bad, you should definitely give up on him. In my opinion this doesnt have any grey area's

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