[Piiiiiiiiiiink]

Umm, where to start I've been feelin down for a while because my best friend... My boyfriend ... I just don't know how I feel about him any more, I'm feeling so lost, here's a quick background .. We have been the closes besfriends for 4years) an together a year and a half, I can't see life without him I love him more then anything ! But lately I feel bored in our relationship.. It's getting boring, I never want to go out I never want sex.. He tries so hard to keep me happy but I just feel nothing, now here's the difficulty, am I going to feel this way forever? Do I have to split from him to feel happy again? But the thing is I thought about Breslin up with him but I know I can't live without him in my life ! I don't know how I feel or what to do.. It feels like I need him in my life but I don't want him right now, please Advise me , I am still young 21yrs I don't want to make the mistake of breaking up with him then suffering so much pain which would have been my fault but then again I don't want to continue the days living like this, so dull and so lifeless .. Please !!! What do y'all think?!?!?

[DGuy]

Just so I understand the issue a bit better is the dull lifeless feeling simply with your relationship or is it a factor with other aspects of your life? If its just him it could be the relationship has run its course. Its possible to love someone but not to be IN love with them anymore and it sounds to me like that is the case with your dilemma. I don't think anyone here is really able to answer the hard questions you have asked. Its hard to say if ending the relationship would be good or bad overall but what I do know is that you are unhappy. If you feel that your days being dull and lifeless stem from your relationship I think its time to say your farewells and part on good terms. Its hard to say how he will take it and there is a chance you may not remain friends but if you are unhappy things need to change.

If this is a common feeling in many aspects of your life my suggestion would be to speak to a physician about depression.

[YoungLust]

I think you need to have a break, explore everything in the world. If you feel bored with your relationship, there really isn't that much that can change that. Sometimes people can be together for 5 months and be bored or 18 years and be bored, either you've completely lost interest or your eye has wandered a bit. Either way i say you take a break, go to the bar with the girls or meet some new guys, if you're still thinking about him then that spark should fly back.