[Italian08]

Ok so.me and my bf have been together almost six months im 22 and he is 28 we use to have sex all the time but its been a month since we had sex. Im always at his house and still nothing but when im here he will say he has to take a dump but instead he watching porn and how I find out is. When I go in after him there cum in the shower so im thinking low of my self and thinking he is not attracted to.me anymore but I don't know what to say to.him I.need help

[brisvegasbaby]

ooooh do I understand how you are feeling. I have no solutions for you except to say have you asked him why you are not having sex? Without crying or being mad it might be best to start by being calm, clear and honest with him. If you cry or get upset he will feel guilty and wont be honest with you. I know how you feel I have a similar situation, I have tried to keep communication open to no avail but it was the first thing I tried. Have you?
If you have and he says nothing then have you tried dressing up? lingerie or costumes? Have you tried being around him less (he may feel smothered) perhaps having a girls night out once a week? A girls night is great because he gets to see you get all dressed up, look hot and then walk out the door. It may really turn him on when you come back later in the night. Or it may motivate him to pay more attention to you lest someone else does and he loses you...
Just a few thoughts.
Good luck, please do not beat yourself up. I know its easy to assume that its you or your appearance, but try not to buy into that kind of thinking it can become a never ending spiral of self loathing. Look at your self in the mirror tonight when you have a shower and remind yourself of what it is about you that looks nice. Dont think, "I hate my butt/ stomach/ thighs" but focus on what you DO like, "I have nice hair/ skin/ breasts/ eyes/ a great smile/ nice legs" etc etc. It might sound stupid but please try that tonight and every night for a week. It will help more than you think.

[Italian08]

I did ask him bout it and he completely lied and said he didn't jerk off in the bathroom when I know he did cuz I wiped it off and smelt it I know weird but atleast I know he lied and he didn't say anything bout not having sex but I don't want to keep asking him and me look like im desperate for sex u know