[imaconfusedfemale]

Ok my ex boyfriend from when i was junior in high school came back from Texas about 3 weeks ago. He tells me that we are goning to be together and all this big stuff about me being his wife and the mother of his future kids. Well we both have a myspace page and there is this one girl on there that keeps leavin him comments that I really dont like. I never asked him about it, I just thought she is just doing that to get to me.

The other half is he never calls me, im always the one to call or text him. I tell him i always feel like im buggin him because its always bein makin that move. I really dont know what to do I really want to be with him and all the things he tells me makes me believe that he wants to be with me too but his actions show different and I just dont know what to do. Should I ask him about these things or just wait to see what happens?

[kaylar]

In your particular situation, I would take a giant leap
backwards. Many times people run jokes with old
friends who are expected to know it is a joke.

In this case, taking everything you have said, I see
a guy having fun, and nothing serious is behind it.

It's like that movie in which Bette Midler is speaking
to the phone company to get her service returned, and
tells the man who has given her twenty four hours about
the beautiful children they will have together.

[alibaby]

imaconfusedfemale,

He was a boyfriend from junior high school. He's been away for some time and now he's returned to make you his wife and the mother of his children? But if you're supposed to be his 'future bride', wouldn't he want to talk to you, see how you're doing throughout the day? That's what people in a committed relationship usually do. It doesn't sound like there's much of a relationship here. He seems to be preoccupied with something or someone else. You have to think about what makes this guy so great, other than the thought of being married to him. Ask him about why he doesn't call you and the MySpace friend, and anything else about him that you're concerned about. Why waste your time waiting to see what happens? You'll just continue to be 'a confused female'.

[Little]

Oh, high school boys.
I met my ex-fiancé when we were juniors in high school (for perspective's sake, it was three years ago.) He was smitten from the beginning, telling me all the same things that your ex told you ... that you'd have beautiful children together, that you'd get married someday, that you just didn't know it yet.
From the beginning, he said this. We 'talked' (as the kids say these days) for those two years before we graduated, but never dated until after we both graduated.
He was always aloof, in high school and afterwards. We had our first date on January 1, 2007 ... and I didn't hear from him again until well into February. He was always hard to pin down; when we were dating, I'd laugh about how he left his ex without an explanation ... assuming he'd left her for me.
But then he did the same to me, his fiancée, when we had planned to be married this August. Sometimes guys need their space; sometimes they have issues concerning settling down and convince themselves that they can and should ... when they can't and shouldn't.
So maybe that's what's going on with you. Maybe not; my ex had the Marines to blame for much of his recent incomprehensibility ... but I should have seen the signs in front of my face the whole time.
The two of you broke up once and it is probably better that you stick with that decision. Good luck!

EDIT: forgot to mention the important point. I reminded him of all the cute, silly (and slightly stalkerish) things he'd said about marriage and kids ... and I was told he'd said that to a few girls. So much for sincerity.

[DEE DEE]

This is what I think...........

I think you and him just need to sit down and talk about the different situations at hand.....Because you never know he might mean everything that he is saying about how he wants to marry you and want you to have his future kids but he probably dont know how to sit down and talk about any of this....He probably wants to call you and text you first but he maybe feel the same way you feel about nagging or bugging him and doesnt want to do that.....Just sit him down and let him know how you feel about different situation and see what he says and take it from there. But I'm pretty sure it work from there.