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  • COnfused and totally stressed out

    I am student, from India.about to finish graduation.

    I am in Love with this guy since some good time now and in relationship with him since the last year.

    I love him but we have real family issues which might result in breakdown of this relationship.
    If I move on with him without thinking about my family then all is good. But when i think about them, I feel completely distorted. It's not that I don't love him, he loves me more than me..but sometimes when i think about everything around i become quite depressed. He's interested into everything only with me. But my family will never support us.. if we went for Love Marriage. I have thought many times about it and thought to break this relationship too. But could not. Am I being coward? just because we love each other means everything sometime will be clear and positive for us, and we should keep going with our relationship without thinking much?

    or I should stop because of my family thing? because family will face issues of acceptance..!(I'm sorry, yes)

    He as a person or as a lover is too good and everything is good too. he don't want me to go. I want to stay but not being at peace these days because of over thinking about some negative issues. will i be a fool to let my Love go?

    I am so stressed and confused and totally blank about what to do.. Please Help Please reply.

    a desperate Soul awaiting.

  • You need to do what will make you happy. Will you regret it in the long run if you let this guy go?

    An exercise for making decisions is to imagine which action you would regret more years from now.
    Best of wishes.

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    • Graduate, take another 12 months of your lives together.

      I understand religion can play a part also in your culture as to who you can and can not marry, are all people happy, having settled for someone to please someone else? No.

      Time may make your parents see more as well, probably not but at least they will know you are seriously in love.

      You say he loves you more than you.

      That something recently happened to make you think.

      Therefore, I suggest time.. Remain together, enjoy each other's love and see how you feel in 12 months time.

      Explain to him that time may help with family and that you need to both just enjoy each other's love for now don't allow him to force you to decide.. I know that is important to him, fear as well creeps in from his side due to the situation but just love and see where it goes later. You are young.
      PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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      • ps, can you elaborate about you problems with your families sanctioning this relationship? Are you of vastly different castes or sub-castes (Jāti)? Where will you live and what will you two do for work if you marry? Will you be in an area where love relationships are more common so you have supportive friends?
        I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
        ...
        Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

        From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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        • he has a good background and so have I. we have a difference culture altogether. He has a nice job..
          everythings good, just the decision making part is rough..thinking about it..

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          • Thankyou chandlers wish for the help. i eally appreciate it.thanks a lot
            stll thinking about it

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