[Lovcookie]

Well this has been a source of embarrassment all weekend. My GF's daughter is visiting from out town for a few weeks because college is finished for the term. She is 19 workouts. Her mother too has been working out hard for the past year. They are similar in height and body shape also hair length and style. From the back they look so similar. Her daughter is really impressed by the level of fitness her mother has achieved. My GF (41) bought herself a new body fitting dress which she showed me a week ago. I came in after being out for a few hours and noticed my GF at the kitchen island counter reading something. She was wearing the new dress and I said to myself her butt sure looks great. I thought oh she is going shopping or we are going out somewhere. I came up behind a squeezed it. She was a bit startled and let out a slight surprised gasp. She turned to me and to my utter shock it was not my GF but her daughter. I immediately felt so stupid and embarrassed and apologized on the spot explaining I thought it was her mother. Her mother (my GF) was outside on the deck and did not hear or see a thing. Her daughter said don't worry cause it was fine. She explained her mother let her try it on the dress. She saw how bad I felt and added its ok a few more times. She was a tad embarrassed too and not mad at all. She was actually giggling after a minute went by. I am wondering if I should bring this up to her mother. She is the type that would not care and think it is funny but I am too embarrassed to do so. So far I don't think the daughter has made mention of it to her mother and acts like all is fine and nothing happened. I think I should do the same and not bring it up but a huge part of me needs to get it out. I am 90% sure my GF will consider it flattering and she won't be ****ed at me. I don't want to embarrassed the daughter though either.

[jen1447]

It qualifies as a 'thing,' so mention it.

[rcoreyus]

You apologized. If she accepted the apology, I think its OK. I don't think telling your GF will make it better.

Every once in a while people accidentally screw up big time. I still cringe remembering making a comment (to someone else) on the attractiveness of a woman I thought was a college student who turned out to be 13. (As write this I want to crawl back in a hole and die... and it was almost 10 years ago).

[effy2014]

I think you will get gender-based differences of opinion. In my view, your chance to bring it up vanished when you didn't tell your GF the minute it happened. Explain now and it will seem odd. If her daughter had an issue with it, she would have already told Mom. You apologized. Enough said. Drop it.

[DreamP346]

I would tell your gf. The daughter might think it funny to mention it in conversation with her mom, not knowing you never told her. That would make it very uncomfortable for you. Then your GF might start wondering why you never told her.

[Something_Awesome]

I'd bring it up for sure.

[Lancashire Lad]

Tell her, i wouldn't worry to much about it, it'll more than likely end up as a family joke.

[Lovcookie]

Ok, first I will tell the daughter I am going to mention it. If its ok with her and will bring it up with the GF. I suspect it will be fine
At the time I almost did bring it up. I was picturing what I would say and how I would say it but did not go through it. Her daughter is a very fun easy going joking type. At first I thought she may be embarrassed if mentioned but the more I think about it she would have made a joke about. I think she considered how it would embarrass me.

[jen1447]

No lol, don't tell the daughter first - your obligation isn't to her and you don't need her permission. You're acting like it's 'your little secret' but it's not and thinking that is the path to hell. Go straight to the GF. Honestly, the best way to have handled this would have been to go straight to her right after you did it and say "Hey, um, I just smacked your daughter on the bum because she was wearing your dress and I thought it was you. I feel kind of weird about it and apologized, but I just wanted you to know too. Is it cool, or should I do or say anything else or what?"

You're over-thinking it all, just go tell her without anymore delay or worry about who knows what or whatever. It's between you and your GF.

[Pollon]

Jen is right here. You don't want this to appear to be "your little secret."

Go straight to your GF and explain what happened.