[CHANDLERS WISH]

he is not worth me.

Repeat, repeat, repeat

[Goldentouch]

Hello again, and thanks for your replies! <3
I've tried to be strong the recent days. Unfortunately, my ex's new girlfriend started writing to me. I block her on email, facebook etc, yet she creates new profiles and write to me.
I know that she is doing wrong, but it hurts anyway.
It feels like it would be enough with things now. I just want to cope with myself again, without having a maniac after me.

Do you have any words of encouragement or advice?

[effy2014]

Goldentouch:

If I may ask, what is the new GF writing to you about?

If you need more encouragement than you have received, think about the torture your ex will be going through. He left a five year relationship for a woman he "knew" for 3 weeks. This woman is so luney tunes that she has to write his ex for pleasure and spends her time creating new email addresses to continue the harassment. I give it less than a year before he crawls back begging for what he had and lost.

Your ex did not know how to be in a real relationship. That he would allow the woman he spent 5 years with to be harassed makes him scum. Be happy that you found out before you had kids. You are better off without him.

[jen1447]

Just ignore her, some people are almost sadistic in their insecurity.

[Goldentouch]

He owes me a lot of money. I have tried to be understanding that he can not pay much at a time, but now he has neglected to pay. Have realized that it can not be nice about this anymore and has therefore put more pressure on him to pay. Now I get emails from her that I'm heartless and that I should forgive their actions, and that it is a hard time for him. It is bad for him because he does not even know how to find his own apartment. I'm so mean because I dont understand that he is in a difficult phase in life. I'm evil because I want my money back.

I know it's so silly, but it takes so much energy to even try not to care.

I wrote an email to him today to solve this once and for all.
Told him very sweet and to the point that I wish he could borrow money from his parents instead so we can break completely.
He did not want that.
When I then replied that if I was as bad as he says he should have interest to pay off quickly so I'm not a part of his life anymore.

I know I should stop bother, but I just feel that if I'm going to move on properly I dont want any connection to him at all, but he can not understand.
He left me with all responsibility because he wanted to create a new life. Now that I want to create a new life and try to move on in the best way, he refuses.
I should not be surprised ...
He is after all an a-hole.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Do you know what?

Money is money. They say it's the root to all evil and it is. Whilst you chase, you will continue to communicate, continue to be let down, continue to receive emails, continue to think, get mad and feel like carp.

Don't look at this as him getting away with anything. Look at this as you moving on and saying PFTTTTTTTTTTTT because you can re-build that money again.. What comes around goes around. He will continue to have nothing. Get out there and make that money again, get out there and dance, smile, put some lipstick on, get your hair done, and stop communication full stop from here.

He understands, he can't do it and eventually he won't do it nor reply so cut the lose now and move on ..