[swee2886]

well me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half,and l have a child from a other relationship.
Well my boyfriend want to have a 3sum with my best friend because she told us that she had one with 2 guys.
He has had 3sums before with his ex and he thought it would be great if we tried it with my best friend.
He was all up for the idea but l just could not see the man l love so much make love with someone other than me.
And now if make me think of that he just want to have sex with another person. And dose he feel as serious about our relationship. l now don't think that his love for me is as strong as l thought.Should l end my relationship Help me please l don't know what to do

[kilo]

He's done this before and he's not with that women. He's a freak and your not going to last if you go through with this. You will be another one of his 3 somes he talks about to his next girlfriend. Leave the bum unless it's something you really want to do.

From a guys mouth..............

[dawn9800]

No your not being harsh at all
Pickiing your bestie for the 3 some is a bit fishy
You should only go into something like that knowing what damage it could cause to you and possibly your friendship with your friend
If he is soo soo serious about it maybe yall have some working to do on your relationship since he obviously does not respect your feelings and opinions

[metalbudderfly]

i kind of agree with kilo there. if you don't want to do it then don't!!!! plain and simple. i could't fathom my hubby being with another woman at all period even if i was involved. jelousy would run very high just thinking if he enjoys being with the other woman if she was better than me. then i would have thoughts on wondering if he would desire her afterwards and maybe he would want to do it again. i just couldn't handle that. my hubby is dedicated to me and me only and we would never indulge in something of that sorts. don't get me wrong when i was younger and unattatched i did experiment that, but like i said i was not in any sort of commited relationship. maybe you should move on and be with someone that wants to be with you solely. you might be alot happier in the long run.....

[Little]

Obviously, if you don't want to do it, then don't.
But have you told him how upset you are? You have a child in the picture! Maybe he doesn't want a full-on threesome. Some guys just get off on the idea of seeing two women kiss/fool around. They want to be the "big man" who can get two girls. The thing about threesomes is that you have to lay down what you're comfortable with.
You need to lay down the law, in general, before you think about leaving. If he doesn't respect your feelings, then obviously, it's time to leave, but you have to respect how open he's been with you.

[rcoreyus]

You certainly shouldn't do it if you don't want. But -I think it is OK for him to ask - I would always want my partner to tell me their fantasies - as long as they understand that I will not be willing to do some of them. I think one should try to avoid expressing disgust for another's fantasies, it will discourage them for telling what they really like.

Asking is very different from pressuring - I can't really tell from the original post what this was.

[commonsense]

well me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half,and l have a child from a other relationship.
Well my boyfriend want to have a 3sum with my best friend because she told us that she had one with 2 guys.
He has had 3sums before with his ex and he thought it would be great if we tried it with my best friend.
He was all up for the idea but l just could not see the man l love so much make love with someone other than me.
And now if make me think of that he just want to have sex with another person. And dose he feel as serious about our relationship. l now don't think that his love for me is as strong as l thought.Should l end my relationship Help me please l don't know what to do

He's pretty much made up his mind on the issue, it's a matter of whether you want to join in. Most people who are doing this, that's what they like. If you don't like this, you're with the wrong person. Also, I'm not quite sure why you are allowing your girlfriend to discuss sex escapades with your man. That's a "no no" on my list. She gave him the "bait" and looks like the "fish" wants to catch it.

[swee2886]

thanks heaps

l spoke to him about it and he said he wasn't upset that l didn't wont to go throw doing something like that. I told him how l felt to see him with someone other me. He said it was fine and he respect my wishes and he wouldn't force me to do something l didn't want to do. He just thought it would have been a little bit of fun to sex up our sex life and to try some like that with me.And to do it with someone l knew. l am so glad he wasn't a, *** hole about it and he thinks our relationship is far more important.