[J3nnyuk]

hey ladies, really need some help with this me and my bf keep arguing about the same thing and it just keeps going on and on. you see my bf at the moment isn't working and i am now thats not the issue as he is looking for work its just that i do most of the cleaning and washing clothes and cook tea when i come in and it kinda making me nakered. so i just asked him to help a bit more but he seems to take it the wrong way and think im saying he is doing nothing which i don't coz he does wash the pots for me and dusts every now and again. what other way can i ask him for help without it turning into an argument all the time or is it me just being a moaning cow plz help

[metalbudderfly]

hey there,
well i don't think your being a moaning cow about this one. what if he worked would he still do any of the cleaning or would he expect you the woman do all the cleaning even if you worked or not? from my experiences if the man worked then the woman did all the cleaning. well sweety it's 2008 now and i think if we as women work just as men do then i don't see a problem with the men pitching in to help with the house cleaning either. especially if you are the only one working here. my hubby helps pretty much 50-50. he doesn't work due to a very bad accident he had. he is now permanently disabled. but he still manages to help keep up on the house work. let me tell you thats not an easy thing to do in our house we have 4 boys in which 3 of them are teenagers and also have 3 dogs on top of it. so i just say nicely maybe hint to him that you might need a bit of help because your tired after a long days of work. maybe hint that a little tea might be nice waiting for you when you get home. well if he takes offence to this i'm sorry i really dont know how else to tell him but by just little hints.

[Rose5]

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but what you have is what you have. My husband used to help a lot before we had kids but it just went downhill from there. I've just accepted it because you can't change anyone. When I have a really overworked day I'll complain and then he'll half-heartedly help. Your BF will probably not improve much so you have to decide if you can overlook it or not.

[J3nnyuk]

re help

thz for help ladies will try that