[blondiej530]

Ok, I kinda need advice, I like this guy and he likes me, no problem there.We are in our 20s, I am 25 and he is like 27. My problem is that he is a virgin and I am not. I just dont know how I feel about hooking up with someone who has not ever made love. I havent told him this or anything, cuase I dont wanna hurt his feelings. Should I look past it and just be with him?

[Fallen1]

I think if you like/love him most definitely give it a chance. Just because he's never had sex doesn't mean you can't or won't be satisfied.

Look at it this way, you can be his teacher, teach him to your own liking. The learning/experimenting can be great fun.

[blondiej530]

Thanks for your advice. I guess its just hard for me to be the teacher, I am used to more experienced men, ya know? But I do want to give him a chance....I feel bad even posting this question, cuase obviously thats his choice that he hasnt had sex, but its new to me to be with someone so inexperienced. Does that make sense? lol

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Thanks for your advice. I guess its just hard for me to be the teacher, I am used to more experienced men, ya know? But I do want to give him a chance....I feel bad even posting this question, cuase obviously thats his choice that he hasnt had sex, but its new to me to be with someone so inexperienced. Does that make sense? lol

I think that a man who is a Virgin still will know exactly where it goes, and how

Just because he is a Virgin does not mean that he has not tried every other thing in the book and does it well either.

But of course, you haven't said whether he wants to change that or whether he wants to remain that until married.

So if the later, you may have to take all that satisfaction in a different way and there is nothing wrong with that.

The main thing being Love, if you both end up in love then none of it will matter, you'll work around everything.

And like Fallen1 said, if he is ready, don't feel worried he obviously has feelings for you and it will be great anyway.. you get to have it exactly how you want it.

Comminication is all good.

[C]

Think of the men that have paid money for having a virgin wife and then of yourself with having the opportunity to teach a man how to make love...If I were you, I would consider myself very fortunate....It should be one hot night.... Honey, you can do no wrong....Only right....

[lexi]

I have taken someones v-card and even though he didn't know what he was doing he was willing to try everything because he hadn't ever done it before. We ended up learning new positions together and because he wanted to try everything I was able to try things that I hadn't ever been able to ask for from an experienced guy.

It was a positive experience for me (we ended up staying together for almost 2 years and are still on good terms)

[Richard S]

One thing I'll say, please don't take on the task of de-virginizing a guy unless you can see it through. You may have to "play the lead" the first few times. What I mean is that you basically need to be generous, let it be about him, and just give the guy the time and space to find his way of making love. The best thing you can do is assure him that you're not going anywhere.

When I say be generous, i mean give him head, give him handjobs, don't skip the steps along the way. It's not just about intercourse, it's about him learning how to give you the space to give pleasure to him. It may feel like you're just servicing him the first few times. Allow it to unfold gracefully. Give him something special that he'll remember all his life.

On a practical level, he may not come the first time, if he's used to masturbating, you may need to "train" his c*ck to respond the stimulation of a woman's hand or a woman's mouth. This is normal. Take your time. Let him know it's OK.

Virginity is not merely the absence of sexual experience, it is the presence of a certain hestitancy, a sense of anticipation, all the primal stuff about a boy wanting to become a man. He may act strange, like he's too much inside his head. Understand that this is normal, look past your normal female reactions and see on a higher level, into his heart. He wants nothing more than to be a good man, a good lover for you, he just needs time to find that place inside himself.

Don't just try it once and then give up if things don't go well. And if you get cold feet, absolutely don't play games about it (that is, don't turn it into his problem). There is a special corner in hell for women who mess with a guy's head and heart that way.

[blondiej530]

Well thanks for everyones advice. I am feeling a little better about it now. CW, no he does not want to wait until marriage to lose his virginity..I am not exactly sure why he has'nt allready, and I guess thats not my buisness right?! Richard S, you gave great advice that I am definetly taken into consideration, and I know how it is when men play those awful games, so I am def not one of those girls who do that.

[hayley2008]

My ex was a virgin.. , we was together 2 years

and ive never had sex as good as i had with him since!


dont be worried!

[blondiej530]

Thanks...as of right now are staying friends, he actually has a job offer in Va and I live in Ma...so now its kinda crazy...thats a VERY long distance relationship! Dont know how that would work out....