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  • GlossyT
    Member
    • Aug 2008
    • 39

    he made a pass at me

    So Monday night, my friend and her husband invited me over since my husband was stuck in the town he works due to weather. Went over, roasted marshmallows, talked, and started having some drinks as adults do. We had kept drinking, talking listening to music. Started dancing. Her husband dances with me, and let's his hands roam up and down my waist and arms and thru my hair. I started feeling like he may try to kiss me as his head was getting lower. I stopped and he starts dancing with his wife. Before this I was already pretty shnokered, as was she. Then he tells us its time for us girls to go to bed. Takes us and puts us on the bed, he took her pants off, then started to take mine off. I pushed him away. So we're on the bed my friend in betwen us, and she completely falls asleep, dead to the world. He starts saying things he wants to do to me, like suck and bite on different places, while he's running fingers thru my hair again. At that point I got scared because im human and i cant say i didnt like any of it, and left the room.
    When she woke up shortly after I told her everything he said and did and she was like well I'm sorry , he's just stupid especially when he drinks. then she asked me not to tell my husband. Which I have. She talked to him briefly, dont kniw what she said. But she tells me that he thinks im hot and even more so with beer goggles on. He appologised to me a few times and said he didn't mean to make me feel uncomfortable.
    I guess what I don't understand is why she's not livid with him? I sure would be if my husband acted that way. And the other thing is I want to know if he was actually drunk or did he really know what he was doing and purposely swaying the night to go that way.
    I can't get it all out of my mind, ive honestly never had anyone do anything like that to me. my husband has been so good to me about all this, really supportive and understanding.
    Thanks for letting me vent. Even after talking with my husband it still feels good to write it out and try to get over it.
  • atskitty2
    Assistant Admin
    • Aug 2013
    • 4467

    Briefly, I think he/they probably did engineer a scenario to seduce you. it would seem to me the wife knew his desires and supports him in that.

    It could've been spontaneous, but the wife's response makes me think that wasn't her first "event".

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    • Motorguy
      Veteran Member
      • Mar 2014
      • 3921

      Well Glossy I agree with Kitty on this as well. They both was playing you as that was there grand plain to get into your pants off hoping you was tipsy enough to allow that to happen from both of them. Want is scary if you was pass out drunk would he had force himself onto you now that is scary. Now that's what worries me with all about this. Have you remained friends with them or have you discuss this event with them since this had happen. Well good luck I hope you can work this all out with them but you know they can't be trusted for a long time so God bless you.
      When out driving always turn left. Then, should you become lost, you can find your way home by reversing the procedure and always turning right.

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      • jns
        Assistant Admin
        • Mar 2010
        • 8398

        I agree with kitty and MG.
        I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
        ...
        Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

        From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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        • GlossyT
          Member
          • Aug 2008
          • 39

          Originally posted by Motorguy
          Want is scary if you was pass out drunk would he had force himself onto you now that is scary. Now that's what worries me with all about this. Have you remained friends with them or have you discuss this event with them since this had happen.
          When I think about it all, that scares me too. I honestly have no clue as to how far he would have been willing to go. I haven't talked to her about it since but I feel like I need to. That can't happen again. I really don't feel like his apologies were genuine. Like he only did so perhaps because I stopped the situation and was uncomfortable, not because of what he actually did.
          Thanks guys I think I see clearly what it was now.

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          • Pollon
            Veteran Member
            • Nov 2012
            • 327

            What did your husband say about the whole thing? Was he bothered by what his "friend" did?

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            • Motorguy
              Veteran Member
              • Mar 2014
              • 3921

              Originally posted by GlossyT

              When I think about it all, that scares me too. I honestly have no clue as to how far he would have been willing to go. I haven't talked to her about it since but I feel like I need to. That can't happen again. I really don't feel like his apologies were genuine. Like he only did so perhaps because I stopped the situation and was uncomfortable, not because of what he actually did.
              Thanks guys I think I see clearly what it was now.
              Well Glossy, I would only talk with your girl friend with your husband there and demand a more heart felt apology from her husband on this whole situation. But as Pollon just quoted what did your husband say of this whole situation or he just seeing it all out before he really commits about it all. I am really glad nothing really happen to you Glossy with this matter and I really hope you can work it out with your friends good luck and God bless you.
              When out driving always turn left. Then, should you become lost, you can find your way home by reversing the procedure and always turning right.

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              • GlossyT
                Member
                • Aug 2008
                • 39

                Well I think we're back on track now even though it will take some time mend. There were some things she and I said after the fact that were offensive as tempers were kinda flared. Major ones being her mad that my conscience was bothered by it and told hubby in first place as "no real sin occurred" and for me I'm pretty sure she took offense to me being confused as to what his intentions actually were, if he indeed was drunk and didn't know what he was doing. But my husband has been a saint even in regards to he husband. We went over there to offer a meal since she and her kids had been in a car accident just few days ago, he immediately took my husband aside and apologized profusely. They shook hands and, although it will take time to trust him again I things have gone pretty well.

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                • PandaB87
                  Member
                  • Dec 2014
                  • 12

                  Yeah, sounds like you were setup to be seduced. "Time for the girls to go to bed" what is up with that line? Just sounds creepy!

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