[sidaneey]

Hi I am new to this forum. It has given me some very good advice, however I need to ask the following.

I am with a guy who I love verymuch he is 2o yrs my senior. We get on really well, but one thing is worrying me, he spends all his time looking at transexual websites and I am sure he has been to see one. He has mentioned that we go together so he can watch. He says it intrigues him as they all sem to have enormous penis and are so beautiful.. What advice would any one give.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hi I am new to this forum. It has given me some very good advice, however I need to ask the following.

I am with a guy who I love verymuch he is 2o yrs my senior. We get on really well, but one thing is worrying me, he spends all his time looking at transexual websites and I am sure he has been to see one. He has mentioned that we go together so he can watch. He says it intrigues him as they all sem to have enormous penis and are so beautiful.. What advice would any one give.

Mmm, he has fantasies in this particular field.

He would like you to join with him, this will never stop, it is not a new thing to him, in my opinion, perhaps, he has already been there, just wants you to join...

The age thing doe not worry me at all, i have a beautiful lady at work who is so intelligent but she is 23, and he is 50, and i dont' see that as a problem, i can see from conversations that it is, don't judge.

If he is attracted to that, he will always be attracted to that, he is in awe of a man's connection....

Please think carefully of continuing, as he has now let the "cat out of the bag" so to speak...

AND, more so, trust mother nature and her instincts, you don't now know, where his parts have been.... Do you?

So be careful if you don't take anyone's advise, let alone mine, because you are in dangerous waters i believe.

CW

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Hmmmmmmmm.

It's a tough one. Sexual perversions really get tricky.. But it really depends on what people are comfortable... Some men like to watch their wives have sex with a group of black guys or a dog, I've seen personals adverts for both of those haha.

It sounds like the guy is at least bisexual, which I don't think by any means means the end of a relationship. Has he been "around"? Do you feel that "gays" are disease carriers? Are you upset that he lusts after something you can't give him?

YOU need to think about how YOU feel about it - the irrelevent opinions of some strangers on the internet doesn't really matter.

He was quite brave in admitting that to you, by the way.

[Ellie!!!]

ok if you are still having sex then i guess its fine but if you've had a dry spell or he is suggesting a 3sum with two men im sorrry to say that he could be gay

[sidaneey]

Thank you for your opinions and advice. It gives me a lot to mull over. Yes it was brave to admit this, however there is still a lot of denial in the way he talks about this to me. Im not sure if he really knows or understands himself.

[sidaneey]

I am being careful, both physically and mentally this is why I had to ask for advice and view from a broad spectrum of people. Your comments have been noted.

[Elvira_Jane]

In my opinion, he does trust you enough to talk to you about this. Maybe he is trying to truly find himself and where he is at sexually. I would examine how you feel about the entire situation. If it is not something you want to be a part of, be honest with him in return. The relationship is both of yours and if it is not a healthy situation for you, then you should end it. You can still be his friend. But, I don't think this is something that will go away. I also think you should ask him some very candid questions about past sexual partners as you should with any one you date! Remember, it's your life too and it's your decision on where you go.