[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ellie
but now hes been asking me sum real weird stuff like getting three of his friends and u no blow jobs nd double ending me at the same time. He also asked if we could do a sex tape 4 the internet and he wants for me to have plastic surgerey.

Yeah but i also seem to think what guy whom likes his woman regardless of age, would want and allow (3 of his friends) to sleep with her?

Nothing against the fantasy of seeing men with her but his friends?

How will that constitute a relationship. What will the friends be talking about, who to, around her town let alone the internet thing.

I personally think he's a jerk.

And, no i am not old fashioned at all, i can play with the big boys, i just don't like the "friends" scenario.

Personally.

Unless your way mature, and into swinging etc etc

CW

[commonsense]

No, tons of guys do *not* go through this. You'd be surprised how many guys have trouble because their women won't even give them oral, let alone threesomes.

It really sounds like he's messing with your head, in a big way. Especially the plastic surgery part. As far as the internet thing, once that stuff is out there, it's out there forever. Nothing is more personal than deciding to have your "business" out there for millions of people to download, including perhaps people in your own family or community. Give that some thought.

There's nothing wrong with experimenting and pushing the limits into things that may be excessive on occasion, but at some point he has to accept you for who you are, since that's kind of the definition of what a relationship is. Set boundaries with this guy.

Good luck.

I agree. This could backfire on you. He may have some bad motives that could hurt you later. Approach with caution.

[sad girl]

I think you should lose this guy. He has no respect for you at all. Wanting all his friends to have you- thats just bad. And the worst part is, if he wants you to do all these things already and your starting to question them now- what is he going to have you do in the future. Nothing good is going to come out of this relationship. He is going to run out of fantasys and become bored with you.
You should do your self a favor now and leave him. Find someone who respects you and dosnt want to put your private life out there for the world to see.
There is plenty of men out there that wont have you doing things you will feel a need to question.
And as for the plastic surgery- I myself have had my breasts done- and my view on it is you should never change something on your body that is not something you want. If you want plastic surgery then go for it- as long as it is what you want. Not something someone else wants you to have done.