[Popcorn&Candy]

I think that fact you assume you're "overeacting" is exactly how he manipulates you. You're NOT overeacting. It isn't your fault. You ARE NOT to blame. You deserve respect and affection: not being manipulated and lied to. I think you need to realize your value in relationships. It isn't always your fault, you know: no matter what your partner claims. I can't make you see, but you have to see for yourself what he is. Why should you suffer?

[Texasred]

Agate, there's a song: "50 Ways to Leave Your Lover." I would go with #1 and soon. Today.

[agateaqua]

Thanks everyone. He is a good guy with a good heart and he's constantly doing things around my house helping me , and helping my brother fix his car. He just tends to overanalyze and nitpick I feel at things I've said or haven't said . It's very hard to know what to do still because I know he's a good guy , just maybe not a good match. I can always leave, I will never move in with him or such at this point though . The doubt is what's keeping me at this place, the what if's. what if I regret leaving him etc. I do think he's trying to chance and be less critical , I have seen some improvements since we talked some more.

[atskitty2]

Ok. And if he's such a good guy, but just not a good match for you, is it fair to him to hold him, knowing you have no future with him?

And why waste your time if you know he's not a match? Is that fair to either of you?

[Popcorn&Candy]

If you know you're wrong for him, is staying with him fair? Wouldn't it be fairer to him to let him be with someone he doesn't "have" [for lack of a better word] to nitpick? I mean, if you're always wrong and he's always right, wouldn't he be happier with someone who fits him better? You're obviously a caring person and do love him, but if there's no future, why torture him and yourself? Your love won't change the fact you simply don't fit him.