[birdy]

I need help,i believe my livein boyfriend of 23 years is cheating.i haveto know for sure.should i snoop,it feels wrong but i can't find another way he won't talk he gets realing TICKED OFF when i bring up her.

[rcoreyus]

Its tough. You can never know that he isn't cheating. What makes you worry that he is?

[birdy]

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i beleive he is because for one he,s mean. he,s late making up storys whyhe,s always talking about her.he doesn't touch me anymore,doesn't even kiss me hi or bye.i found a receipt in the trash it had gotten wet so i couldn't make out anthing on it but the store name date . he said he hadn't been to that store in 3 months,it was dated 5 days before i found it.so you tell me is he cheating

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well my two cents is, what does it matter if he is cheating or not?

He is "mean", "nasty", "you feel he's hiding things from you like store receipts", "he refuses to discuss a particular woman" yet he is with you so should be discussing her and saying there's nothing in it.

Don't you deserve better anyway?

Someone who isn't mean?

Just on those grounds i'd walk if he wasn't prepared to stop it....

I am a believer, no point living in a loveless relationship "no kissing' don't remind me... if you have the opportunity to continue growing in your life, as i assume you are young in your early 20's.

Keep moving.......

CW

[FionaDiaz]

When my husband and I were dating I trusted blindly, as I have in all my relationships, and he cheated. The only way I was able to find out was by snooping. I was already married when I started checking in to things, and 4 months pregnant so just walking out of the house and filing for divorce without being sure wasn't optional. Turns out I was right and did leave and file for divorce. We got back together with him knowing that if I want to snoop, I will and if doesn't approve or like it he can leave.

However, if I had suspected this when we were only dating I would have simply left him. It's not worth the stess. And if he is treating you badly, then why stay anyways?!

My advice would be to leave... no snooping.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

When my husband and I were dating I trusted blindly, as I have in all my relationships, and he cheated. The only way I was able to find out was by snooping. I was already married when I started checking in to things, and 4 months pregnant so just walking out of the house and filing for divorce without being sure wasn't optional. Turns out I was right and did leave and file for divorce. We got back together with him knowing that if I want to snoop, I will and if doesn't approve or like it he can leave.

However, if I had suspected this when we were only dating I would have simply left him. It's not worth the stess. And if he is treating you badly, then why stay anyways?!

My advice would be to leave... no snooping.

I feel a lot of men are going to love you for that last comment, Fi...

Agree though.

CW

[birdy]

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thank you all for your input it's nice to know i'm not alone CW i'm 55 i know i should have my own answers by now.in my head i do but not my heart...we've been togather for 23 years.why now..ihave no place to go.i'm not working right now.and i can't find a job.....but i know when i get that job i will leave come h...or high water...he is mean and he's a creep he doesn't deserve me,i'm nice but i can a b....and i'm good at itso no one thinks i should snoop,just a little bit i'd feel better..

[CHANDLERS WISH]

thank you all for your input it's nice to know i'm not alone CW i'm 55 i know i should have my own answers by now.in my head i do but not my heart...we've been togather for 23 years.why now..ihave no place to go.i'm not working right now.and i can't find a job.....but i know when i get that job i will leave come h...or high water...he is mean and he's a creep he doesn't deserve me,i'm nice but i can a b....and i'm good at itso no one thinks i should snoop,just a little bit i'd feel better..

Lol... I saw (23), mmm... seeing as it was such a short paragraph surely i should have seen (years together)....

I'm nice to and i can be a b.........as well... that's women for you..

Mmmm... Well, he is a creep, and no he doesn't deserve you, seems he has a little lady there, and at the same time your feeding him, which i hope you stop doing now, including washing his um, undies... kick him to the lounge... Enjoy your steak whilst he gets baked beans.. He may even walk out himself...

23 years.... Well that would mean some form of settlement even if your not married wouldn't it?

Now, i'm shot.... because you may need evidence.

So' i'm not answering.

Go seek a lawyers advice, i am sure there must be somewhere first 20 minutes free, or we'll take it on and take our money after.

He can't have the whole cake and eat it all......

Surely....

CW

[birdy]

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CW he doesn't think i know anything,and i want to keep it that way till i have proof.i have to know for sure so i'm still doing the cooking,cleaningand washing his tighty whiteys,wish i had some itch powderi had a friend that saw the woman someone he works with.YUK..his words not mind.she was suppose to look better than me,maybe then i could understand the why.but then again maybe not..i just don't want my heart to break any more.....thank you for reading this birdy