[BabyGirl]

Chester, welcome to the forum.
The thread you are posting in is one from 2008, It may be possible to start your own one, so people don't get confused on replying to a 4 year old thread. Ask an Admin if this is possible.

We are here to help. Also you may use the Search box and find answers from previous posters. But I'm sure you will be able to start one of your own, just note that you aren't re-posting, just moving it to a Newer Thread.

[curdog]

How to check phone/computer records

I too have dealt with the emotional affair, found out THE FIRST TIME by texts on his work phone. Found out THE SECOND TIME (3 months later) by an unexpected pocket dial to me on his personal phone, while he spoke with her on his work phone... yeah... 20 agonizing minutes of hearing what they did that day, conversations they had, and yes... the sexual desires they had for one another...... We are still together, almost a year later... but I still check on him daily, sometimes 2 and 3 times. And I probably always will, although he has given me NOOOOOO other inclination that it has continued. I'm at a point now where I don't know that I will ever get over this and its frustrating because I am determined to stay in this marriage. I made a committment. I know, so did he... but I don't give up on things so easily. But after a year of struggling with my own demons, it sure would be easier to hang it up. The thing that keeps me going is I know he loves me, and I love him.

For now, all you can do is find out the truth, cause obviously he's not going to tell you about any of it.
Install a key logger on your computer. It tracks websites, and all key strokes. You'll have usernames and passwords in a flash. As far as the texts, there's very little chance you can recover these... but you can check your statements online. I look at mine daily and know every name/number he ever dials. If he calls a new number, I start googling, calling, going over the days events in my head. Trying to figure out who it was. 99% of the time, I've been able to identify who these unknown numbers were. Good Luck.

One thing I have learned is TRUST YOURSELF MORE THAN YOU TRUST ANYONE ELSE. If your instincts tell you he's cheating, he probably is.