okay so i have this guy that ive been talking to since last year. i didnt want a relationship and neither did he because we agreed since it was going to be our first year in college, we didnt want to be tied down. so now we are both going onto our second year of college and we agreed that while we dont want the labeled commitment we would still be pretty much committed.
moving forward.....we are sexual with each other...exclusively and we have been making sure that all the time we spend together is not focused around sex (we had that problem last year). so yesturday he wanted me to come over (havent seen each other in a week) and ive been kinda exhausted because of work and i told him upfront that i am not willing to have sex. well as a response he tells me that since we havent seen each other in so long he would like me to come over so we can have sex (i remind you its only been a week and we have gone longer) and if im not up for sex he would rather me just stay home. as a result i told him fine im not coming because all I wanted to do is maybe watch a movie or play video games...something relaxing cause i know that in his company i always feel relaxed. he responded saying that i could still come over but that he would be playing halo (and if he warns me he means it...i will be there and he will spend the WHOLE time playing a video game).
so my question is.......am i wrong for being very upset and angry for the fact that he didnt want to see me unless we were going to have sex and if i still went he wouldve spent the time playing video games as if i wasnt even there or is my reaction justified. I want some opinions before I approach him about it because I dont want an unneccessary confrontation especially if I'm overracting. All responses will be greatly appreciated and I'm sorry its sooooo long.
moving forward.....we are sexual with each other...exclusively and we have been making sure that all the time we spend together is not focused around sex (we had that problem last year). so yesturday he wanted me to come over (havent seen each other in a week) and ive been kinda exhausted because of work and i told him upfront that i am not willing to have sex. well as a response he tells me that since we havent seen each other in so long he would like me to come over so we can have sex (i remind you its only been a week and we have gone longer) and if im not up for sex he would rather me just stay home. as a result i told him fine im not coming because all I wanted to do is maybe watch a movie or play video games...something relaxing cause i know that in his company i always feel relaxed. he responded saying that i could still come over but that he would be playing halo (and if he warns me he means it...i will be there and he will spend the WHOLE time playing a video game).
so my question is.......am i wrong for being very upset and angry for the fact that he didnt want to see me unless we were going to have sex and if i still went he wouldve spent the time playing video games as if i wasnt even there or is my reaction justified. I want some opinions before I approach him about it because I dont want an unneccessary confrontation especially if I'm overracting. All responses will be greatly appreciated and I'm sorry its sooooo long.
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