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Husband has fantasy of me being with a very well endowed male. I have to admit I have fantasized myself of this but only a fantasy . I have not shared with him at all. Husband is a little below average and in the past he has introduced some toys that were much bigger than he is and I have to admit the feeling was fullfilling to say the least. I do not want to hurt him but have never been in a 3some and would be curious if anyone knows really what to expect? He said he met a guy thru a conference about 3 hours away that is very well endowed and a polite gentlemen. In one way i want to do it but then I am a little upset that he would let me ???We have been together 20 years and have 3 kids and as far as I know he has always been faithful, I know I have. My man is very good at oral sex and that makes up for the below average penis size for me anyhow . Any advice? Anyone else ever been in this spot?.binky

[withered_rose]

I have been the third party of a threesome and it was with a married couple, I will say that it was enjoyable but a little bit awkward, its really up to you and how comfortable you feel within the situation about it, I mean do you feel comfortable letting some one into your bed along with your husband? and do you think it would change your relationship with you husband in a bad way? you need to think about it and talk with your husband and then the two of you need to decide wether or not this is something that you want to explore.

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Thanks WR , for the reply. Like I said in post HE is the one wanting me to do the MMF 3some , It has been a fantasy of mine but not a shared one . At first i was kinda mad about it but I have to admit the more I think about the more intrigued I become with the thought of trying it. I just dont understand why HE wants to see me do it with a well hung man? Not sorry that he does but just curious why? He is not the jelous type but we have never done anything for him to really be jelous of. What if I REALLY like it? What happens then ? I Love him and would never leave him .

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Obviuosly not many have had this situation in their lives . Bummer would have liked to gained some knowledge of different experiences and outcomes.Binky

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Not true, more to the point if you go to the sex section, you will see a lot of headings simular and answers from the members.

Predominately, the "fear" is what happens after. Can he look you in the eye when making love, will he think of that other guy touching you, inside you, will he then feel in-adequate where as now he doesn't as he makes up for it with Oral, and with toys.

Will he think "you" now want a "bigger man" and will he walk with that fear.

Most will say it's such a gamble and unless it's more like 4, "swingers" couples, share, he gets to as well, people you don't know, one time, it is very dangerous. It's still dangerous in that situation but maybe not quiet as much.

CW

[Guest]

Never been "there", but I'd have to agree with CW (yet again).

This is fraught with problems and issues. I think the only person who would almost never have an issue with it is the "third wheel" so to speak.

my XYL and I had talked about it before marriage once, but that was more kind of a "have you ever thought of" instead of "wanna give it a go?", and it never went anywhere. And that's probably a good thing, since I'm pretty fragile emotionally, and almost 20 years later can still get wiggy about her former boyfriends. (I said I was fragile!)

I'm not saying that it couldn't and doest work for some, but I dont think it'd be easy. The two of you would have to (if you haven't already) have a real extensive conversation about the "why" he wants it, and more importantly, what happens afterwards.

You'd also have to consider that you're a wife of 20 years and a mom of three. how'd ya feel about it if they found out? It's one thing if "yes honey, mom did that 20 years ago before you were born and mom and dad were married." It's quite another to say "yeah, just before you got home from high school, we..." Not meaning to sound crass, but it does add perspective.