[rella22]

Just had a baby gir 2 months ago. Shes the best thing in my life i love being a mom!
I just dont know who i am at times, i want to be that sexy, outgoing, fun loveing women i was when i met my boyfriend. I swore i would go babck to being me after i had the baby. I try to balance being a mom a girlfrind a friend, i just dont know how i should act times. I feel times im so up tight. I use to never be like that. I want to have sex like we use to but times i dont even enjoy it.I just feel guilty when i do things for me. Why? Why cant i be that fun girl but with balanceing out being a mom.I feel so lost times. Its even hrad to put into words how i feel. I just hope i find me again,a new version though. I just want to be a sexy, fun, otgoing mom. Will i ever get there? What can i do to find myself? How can i take the time to find my own idenity?

=/ Rella22

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You have alot of questions going through your mind that more than likely it's confusing you.. You take one step forward and three steps back and then try again the next day and so it goes again, same circle, but doesn't seem to join.

You have no plan, you only have dreams.

You are trying too hard.

You knew who you were before and what you are saying is "magic" you want to be a girlfriend, a best friend, a lover, a mother good for you.

Your baby is only young and I think that you have to realise that you don't have to make this happen in (1) day or (1) week or (1) month but KNOW that you will be that person, you are that person and things take time to evenutate to the state you want it to be.

How about writing down your GOALS... Who you are, the things you would like to do, the underwear you want to purchase, get your hair coloured with streaks or cut differently, start walking and breathing the air and say life is great...

Take baby steps yourself, to make your DREAM come true.

Rome was not built in a day and you are trying to hard to get it ALL in one.

CW

[WildChild]

CW has given you some good advice. You are going through a lot of adjustment right now, you hormones are adjusting after pregnancy, you have huge life style changes but a baby. Give yourself some time to get used to all this. Take time to do something just for you at least a couple times a week. Too many women lose themselves in their children and relationships, it's good that you are aware of that. Take baby steps right now. When everything settles down you may find your self going in a completely new direction! It's an adventure.