[jb210042]

My boyfriend and I are not married, and we have only been together for six months. I have known him for two years. But I am just so sad that I have realized the newness is gone. You are probably wondering what I am talking about. Well, I am talking about when I touch him he usually rolls over on his stomach so I can't touch him. He doesn't french kiss me anymore which I love doing. He hardly initiates sex, it's always me and most of the time I get turned away. I remember just a few months ago we were doing it 3 or 4 times a day. And now if it were up to him I think I might get it once a week. I have talked to him about it and I have asked him if maybe he is just not a sexual person like me, but he says he is. I don't really know what to think. I have had three long relationships and it seems like this always happens, is it something that I am doing or is this just what I have to look forward to in marriage. I am scared to talk to him about it anymore because I don't want to make too big of an issue about it because I am afraid it will make him not want to do it at all. He tells me he loves a lot and kisses me on the cheek. He is very nice to me I just really would like to have more sex and not because I had to get mad to get it. Please help.

[WildChild]

Four months seems like a really short time to get to this point. Something is up and at some point you need to figure out what. He may feel that you are getting too close and is backing off. You may not be all that compatible sexually. Guys can come up with some really strange ideas, maybe based on a old gf, what a freind said, misunderstanding what you said. Things like they don't want to have sex too often so you won't feel 'used', Communication is the key

[CHANDLERS WISH]

There is nothing wrong with you... But, do you fall quickly for every guy you are with...? And, that's okay too excepting you keep settling.... You have intimacy, and it's wild and wicked and the guy loves it.

I suspect that you fall quickly and they were having a great sexual relationship.

Take it back a step and go for like for the person, instead of chemistry and you will probably find that you will go out with someone whom likes you for you, not sex and then experiences sex and keeps it going like you want it to happen.

You know, sex is not the way to a man's heart.... Food is, haha, no seriously, i think women think the more they give at a "young age" your young yeah? Then the more a guy likes you...

That sounded harsh I know, but i was your age once.

Perhaps, what he really wants is for you to "love him" as a person, I sometimes think gender is irrelevent....

Sex is sex... without "emotions", one person can sometimes feel that is all that they are there for and they don't just want that ...

CW

[elsa_niloo]

Hi sweetie

I read your problem and it seems waaaay too familiar. My stupid mistake was not walking away when i had a chance and I married the guy and then I had to go through and back and he is still not totally fixed.

My point is try to work it out with him, but do not marry him until you are sure 120% that he is sexually compatible with you.

best wishes to you

[cassie66]

when i first met hubby no.2 he was all over me like a rash. we have now been married 4 months and he rarely touches me andhe is never in the mood. he just wants to go to sleep. its very upsetting.