[Guest]

I can see what Joy is saying, but if you just drop off 100% then he'll still keep calling longer. email him all of his passwords, account names, etc. tell him you are 100% done and then change your phone #.

still good advice.

[Passion]

That is a good idea. Yesterday, I did not answer his call and about 30 minutes later he called me with a private number. When I answered I asked him to call him back then he told me it was serious. Where now there is no doubt that he is with that girl and he told me his is planning to live his dreams with her. So I told him that I wished him happiness and hopefully he will find someone else that really will know how to love him as this girl is not worth it. I also thanked him for giving me the opportunity to find a real man one that will know how to love me, support me, hold my hand, and take care of me. I also told him that this experience is allowing me to grow and learn so that I can be a better person for that new man in my life. I also told him that I was not going to settle anymore and that I was going to aim high and this new man was going to walk proudly with me by his side as he is going to feel very proud to have a girlfriend or a wife like me. Then I said thank you and goodbye I am ready to move on. Wish you the best of success and happiness.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Wow.. Nothing like standing tall...

Good for you..

Now believe what you just wrote, because all that you said, will come true, if you do...

CW

[Joy]

NO1.... passion was married to this man for 15 yrs i believe if you look back at her orginial post. He called her on the phone cause he couldn't do it in person. He called her to say he was done.

HOW lame.... if you have spent that amount of time with someone and all they can do is give u a phone call.... that is not respectful nor is it very mature. In fact it is underhanded, slimy, and cowardly.

again if you read her orginal posts his big art show night his other worman tagged along making a nausance of herself.

NOW, you tell me what or why passion owes him anything. He was good enough to run out the door one day without a care in the world. If he had wanted passwords and all that they and she had created..... then maybe he should have faced the situation headon and like an adult.

If he had handled this breakup like a real man i'd say sure give whatever up and go your separate ways. He was a coward and passion doesn't owe him thing. She also worked while he could go to school and do his art. He has a hint of recongition and he ran out the door to share it some flousy.......... he made his choice and now he can live with the consicequences as they come.

that is it right there he made his choice to be a coward and backstabbing he doens't deserve one second of passions help nor her hard work toward whatever they created together... its in the past. I think if he ever sees the life lesson in the situation that its a hard but great one for him to learn.

passion you can do whatever you see fit.......... but don't let anyone tell ya you owe him that information........... you owe him nothing. He wasn't even descent enough to end your marriage to your face.

One way life will teach him he can't do the hit and runs in life create a disater of emotions and then run back expecting someone to bend over some more and give him what he needs cause he wasn't smart enough to get it before he ran.


CW is right believe what you said and you will see how fast it comes into your life............ I hope 2009 rocks for ya! Good luck

[Passion]

Thank you Joy, sometimes I myself am to blind to see what happened and how he ended things. I will have a great 2009.

[Guest]

I dont think she owes him anything at all!

I just think that the sooner she's done with him the better.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I think No1 said "close the door"....

N01
tell him you are 100% done and then change your phone #.

I agree Passion, you owe him nothing.

I see Joy has made you see things that otherwise, you left aside and I'm glad.

I agree with No1, if he persists, give him the info, tell him 100% do not contact me again, close that door and change your number.

And, I think again, you have such a strong spirit and i actually think this time next year, will actually be a turning point for you in such a good direction,your going to wonder why you stayed 15 years.

Being positive is a major step, and realising your self worth, I will, I can, you can't....

You make that resolution on NYE... and you smile after you do it, because what comes around goes around and i can see him un-happy in 12 months but you happy.

CW

[elsa_niloo]

passion i have been reading your posts, and even though i got my own problems my heart went out to you everytime you sounded hurt and missed him.
I even went as far as telling you to hate him to feel better, which i admit was wrong, because the opposite of love is indifference.
But now sweetie, my heart is filled with joy. Now that you realized how precious your love and care for him is and stood up for yourself and denied him of thinking he can get whatever he wants, whenever he wants from you.

I think it is great that you supported your man through his career. I think every husband and wife should do that for each other. Sadly some people are too stupid to appreciate it. It just goes to show what a loving partner you were and how big your heart is.

I am so proud that you have found yourself again and realized the value of your dreams and are going to concentrate on yourself.
I will definately look up to you in my low moments.

[Joy]

Yeah well passion was a giver and he was a taker... he took and took till she had no more to give then threw her aside for some one else he can suck dry of emotions.

Honestly, he wanted this other woman then they can create and support his work... passion should just delete it she created it not him his contact info was her creation... then he would see if his new lil woman would work that hard toward his career.......... Passion was his wife and worked hard to see him succeed..... and when he did a lil he wasn't very appreiciative.

closure would be to stand up and delete the past it no longer exsists.... why should she give him anything else to succeed its not like he cares if she is eating catfood or not, safe at night or not. NO his consumed with his new vision and dream. Well then let him work as hard as he has to to get it.

Change your number tomorrow.... he can never contact u again.....