[WildChild]

Been there and did take him back, the first time, the second time, the .... Well you get the picture. I know couples who have been through this, stayed together and developed stronger relationships. Others like myself, dealt with a repeater and simply couldn't handle it. Everyone is different. It's not like he's been out there having a LTR or even intercourse. This may well be a one shot deal and when he understands how much it hurt you, it may not ever happen again. Only you or the two of you can decide what to do now.

[rockwilson]

hello all. i am 23 and i have been married for 4 years this past jan. i have been with my husband of a total of 6 years. he is in the navy and we have had alot of ups and downs. he has done two 6 month deployments, and among alot of other time away. and our relationship hasnt been the greatest when we were together. we have hit each other before. and we always used to fight. but for the last 6 or so months it seemed that we had turned things around. we dont fight anymore and we were talking about having kids. i stopped taking birth control and bought the 4 door car. but he called about 3 weeks ago and he told me that he cheated on me. that he got drunk and got sucked on by a girl that he worked with. i am a wreck i dont know what to do. i mean i was a decent wife i would say. not perfect i never cheated though. and i loved him with everything i had. i waited and did whatever i could to help him. he wants a second chance at out marriage and i really dont know if i can. i have been threw alot with him but i dont know if i can handle cheating. i am so heartbroken. im just numb. please anyone that has any advice please help.

Girl, what in the world are you thinking? Even without the cheating, what are you doing with this man? Why are you two together? Judging by what you have said, you do not have any reason to be together. Neither of you is showing love for the other person. It sounds to me like you are two immature people who are getting together occasionally for sex. You will never have a happy life with this man. RUN AWAY FAST NOW!!! Thank goodness you haven't had any children, but get back on the birth control immediately. You are in danger of screwing up the rest of your life. Get away from him, establish some values, and find a good man who appreciates you. I suggest that you read my book on how to understand men and have a happy relationship with one. If you are interested, you can email me at billlmalloy*gmail.com
good luck to you, but if nothing else, get away from this man

[owel1reuel]

Separation is not the best solution. Talk to him sincerely that you're giving him a chance but this time make sure that he's taking it seriously. Trust is involved so if he asked for second chance, give him a shot. But when you give him that, make sure don't doubt him give it in full open hearted. Communicate with him all the time. Then once he do it again of course it will hurt more, but you can move on at a short period of time. Believe me. My situation was worse than this, don't wanna open something for now.I just can't pick the words to say but again,believe me, you can work it out if both of you cooperate. Good Luck!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

He there owel, not your fault someone above bought this thread up. It started in 2009, the OP has not returned so won't read your reply. Have a look on the right hand side of the Threads it will tell you if it's current or not, we try to close as many as we can as we can.

Welcome to WH.

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CW