[*~thethingsyoudotome~*]

Hello all I'm fairly new at this so bare with me. Today i coming with an ongoing issue with my husband, and from what I can see I;m the only one. Me and my husband has married for less than a year. May would be our one year anniversary. Already I have had to deal with him cheating 3x's with the same girl. The girl is his ex girlfriend of 3yrs. Everytime we fought or everytime he wasnt happy he would go back to her. I busted him the last 2x's because he has gotten a call or a text at all hours of the morning or she would call me to telll me to look at his facebook. I cant erase from my mind the vogur things they told eachother or the way he went behind my back to talk to her. I confronted him and he told me he was only playing with her to hurt her the same way she hurt him. I dont believe that at all!!!!!! I went throught a period where she harassed me. She would call me 20+ times a day, send me text message saying i was a or he loves her and not me. When I would block her number she would call from a restricted number so I blocked all unavialable/restricted numbers. Than she started requesting me on myspace/ yahoo messanger. It stopped when i guess she decided to give up. Things were fine for a month than he left on his deployment. Out of the blue she requested me on yahoo messanger. I feel like I'm in a circle that wont break. I'm tired of fighting for him and im tired of fighting myself I dont think I have the will power or strenght for another fight. I sent him a long email telling him i have a fear that when we fight or you arent happy you are going to go running back to her again. I told him i need a husband who i can tell my fears to and who will help me cope with them. He got so mad at me and called me just to tell me if thats how i really feel to leave. All he did was feed into my fear. He told me when he gets back to be prepared to go to court because he will be fighting for custody over our daughter who will be born in a month. I dont know if he was speaking out of anger or seriousiness. After all the he put me through this is what he gives me.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Oh dear, seems she has her claws out and it seems he has no respect and that the baby is holding you two i am so sorry.

You need to seek legal advise, I am sorry but you do because he is a cad, he married you and you understand marraige but he doesn't..

I am so sorry sweet...

But, he has a fear, you also need to speak with him one more time, and tell him how you really feel about him without threats, it could be the threats that is making him react, i suspect he is very young right?

He needs to know that you love him want him needs to let go of her, you will be there for him with your child, if he sees that maybe he will stop, but if not, then he's a player and with you cause you are carrying his baby and that's not a reason to stay.

CW

[Little]

I assume he's military ... and cheating on your spouse is definitely against the CMJ. The kind of man who would ruin his marriage AND career over some crazy ex-girlfriend doesn't sound like the kind of man you'd want to be married to. My heart goes out to you.

[Joy]

I can't over the crazy xgf harrassing you..... can you get a restraining order of some kind for this type of behavior??? If nothing else let this woman know that is your intention to get a restraining order against her.

I can't blame you for wanting to leave i wouldn't want to be married to a man that wouldn't protect his family from some crazy person. He has a choice to make the crazy chick or his wife and baby.

some people never see the gifts right in front of them xo

[happy ending]

it sounds like those two losers deserve it other. please take care of yourself for the sake of your baby, your so called husband and his booty call wont be interested in taking care of a baby. i hope things work out well for you - and good things are around the corner.