[halieybailey]

To some women porn isn't that bad, right. Well at the moment I'm having a nervous breakdown. I was talking to my bf and he was talking kinky it don't bother me I mean it kinda turns me on the ear him pleasuring himself while I talk to him. We was doing our normal thing and I was saying sexy things to turn him on while I listened. In the background I heard something that sounded like moaning butni didn't pay any attention to it. I started hearing it louder until it was like I was in the same room and while he was doing w/e I just stopped I think I was about to kill over and die. Breathing stopped and then he wondered wat was wrong with me.When he come over later that evening I explained to to wat was wrong. He appologized and said he didn't do it much but said he wud stop. I'm scared because I fear that if he does that then I will never be enough for him and the whole marriage thing will go out the window. I feel like I can't trust him and that hurts me. I also worry about the fact that his best friend is getting a divorce because he has a porn addiction.....I don't know what to do...Help me Pls.

[Iseulda]

May I suggest you read this thread, hailey:

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/husband-fiance/14107-porn-issues.html

I think a lot of people covered how they feel about it there.

And, to add to what I said in that thread, I'd like you to think about this... Ask any guy what he'd prefer - a real woman to have sex with and share his life with or 24/7 access to hardcore porn to beat off to. I don't personally know one single man who rather have porn to a real living and breathing partner.

It not you that can't live up to the porn, hailey - it's the porn that can't live up to you

[CHANDLERS WISH]

In addition to the above poster, it is you whom he rang, whom he got off on, he may have had that in the background, but was that what turned him on? No, he spoke to you, you did..

Don't look at what others are doing, rather what you and your partner are, each couple, person is different.

But, you must ask him, could he be satisfied with you, and you alone in your talk, what else is he missing, but can he do that without a projection of life imitating you two, on a screen?

This is how i see this situation , very different, he could have phoned, "phone sex" and watched.

But it was you he spoke to.

Can that not suggest it was you he was thinking of?

Communication, to establish is the key i think...

CW

[WildChild]

Unless porn is such a consumming interest that he is missing work, ignoring you, spending tons of money - it's just a tool. He knows it's not real. The fact that he had it on and still called you tells you, it wasn't enough, he wanted you to be part of it. Try watching it with him. You'll see most of the women look bored, a lot of times you can almost tell they thinking,' ok, after work I've got to stop at the grocery, the dry cleaner, I need to clean up the dog poop in the yard.' They usually just don't look all that into it. The man doesn't usually either.

Men are funny with this, they watches bits and pieces, just enough to get the job done, which is why a lot of pay sites charge by the minute. It's not like they are watching a sexual saga and getting all involved in it. Unless it truly starts to interfer with your lives, it's best to leave this alone. You could drive both of you nuts!

[halieybailey]

thank u guys so much I guess I just let my thoughts get away and I just worry

[golden_nemesis]

Men are very visual creatures. I am too, for that matter. I think to be able to get myself off if I were having phone sex, I might also need an image to focus on. Offer to make a home video of you two having sex, or you masturbating, or even some naughty pictures. I bet he'd snatch those up immediately and would be using that instead of porn with random women in it.

[jstew86]

I definitley agree with the other posts. He obviously wants you - if he didn't he wouldnt have wasted time on the phone chatting with you when he could obviously get off by looking at porn. Porn is good -- don't you think its a helluva lot better than him sticking another lady - not that he would. But sometimes men need to see other women and sometimes you just aren't in the mood - or aren't around. I'd much rather see my man beating off to some porn then being beat off by another woman. I hope this helps! Try to think about it as being a sexy alternative that can't replace you!

[HALFNOTHING]

such a good idea..