[CHANDLERS WISH]

Yes my love...

People though have to realise instead of seeing only black and white, they need to see themselves, their worth...

So on that note, not to take away from the threader's question, don't be confused, know your worth, you will see much more clearly once you do....

He, this man, any man, is not the be all and end all until they show they are and you show the same, then you will be equal....

As long as in addition, we accept that we are whom we are... and like that, the good the bad and the ugly, but if the ugly is UGLY go back to first rule, love yourself and see whom you are, KNOW... and progress in that knowing smiling.

Too deep I know but some will see it.

Others will not.

CW

[katscuddle]

Thank you all. I have sat him down and had a very long talk and I think he now understands that I will not be disrespected in that manner ever again. If he wishes to be Mr. Bachelor. Then I want a divorce first. Appreciate you all
Katscuddle

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Thanks for posting back katscuddle.

You ensured that you knew your self worth and advised of being disrespected, that must have felt good...

Keep us posted...

It's good to stand up for yourself but also to "communicate" in other words, you have made some ground... Don't demand now, rather "talk" it out..

You have shown you can stand tall....

The key is now standing together......

See how that goes.

CW

[HALFNOTHING]

good luck

[katscuddle]

Good news all, well it is for me and my husband, we have finally gotten to the point of talking through the things that seem to be a trigger for him, and my anger about disrespect. I want to thank all of you that took your time to read my delimma and try to help me with it. It is so nice for him to say I want to talk with you about a problem honey, and not mean just another position or other things. We have talked more about the things in the world that are a real problem in the last while than we have in the last 20 years, now when we have the 21 anniversary we will be communicating i think, atleast it will not be without a honest effort for communication.
It was nice not to have to stand behind the blame card for eigther of us but finding the promblem that was at the center of our problems.
Thanks again!!!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

That's fantastic...

It is so nice for him to say I want to talk with you about a problem honey, and not mean just another position or other things.

It is wicked that he's talking to you 20 years is nothing to throw away...

It's good that there are no "blame cards"...

Don't back down however... You've obviously made headway and for a reason the moment you let your guard down you go backwards.

Just remember that part..

CW