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This thread breaks my heart. I'm sitting here reading it on the verge of tears. I'm just dealing with a situation similar to this. (Except mine crossed even more lines)

It is such a hard concept to fathom. People are who they are...I've never doubted that. But when you find this and your loved on swears it's just curiosity or whatever what are you supposed to do?

Your heart tells you to hold on because you want to believe what he's telling you. Your mind tells you to get the out. And your gut...well that's another story.

My heart breaks for you. Sadly I don't have any words of wisdom to offer. (Or I'd be taking them myself). Good luck which ever way you go!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hey sweet, you know the bottom line is, you still need to talk about it, we are a Forum, you don't know us... I just wanted to add that because each day there are new members and as the above poster wrote, someone will be with you and feel that pain with you..

I hope you get this message therefore and come back.. and at worst just talk it through with us.

It is extremely sad when entering into a relationship, not knowing the full facts because something is hidden.

I have talked with him about being insecure and feeling like I am no longer attractive to him in the past he insists there is no problem but we have no romance and the sex has tapered off big time!

I want to highlight this bit. That is HIS thoughts, not yours, you tried to reach out and he is denying, covering if you will, telling you it's fine when it's not.

Remember that, don't let him talk you into ITS FINE because ITS NOT.

CW

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Honest advice you need to take your beautiful little baby and leave, make your own life with your new baby. Your pretty much newly wed and I can see if he is looking at women porn but men girl you need to draw the line, get the hint and leave him with his fantasies.
he probably married you to proove that he was not gay, but your not intimate he likes men having sex with men and youve been married few months, no honey its over the day you said I do.

Terrible advice. They have a child...it's not HER child...it's THEIRS.

People can't help what they are attracted to and what turns them on. There are countless women on this forum who have stated that they fantasize about women on women.

Big bloody deal.

As long as he's not acting on these fantasies, I think it can be controlled. Now this commenting on pics things...yeah....a stern talking to about that is in order.