[velvetnose]

In the last year, my husband has been contacted by at least 3 ex-lovers (that I know about). He claims that they are just friends and, while they didn't work out as lovers, they can remain friends. He has never introduced me to these women, but they start to email him with subject titles like "long time no see". We have been married for about a year and a half, and these women seem to be coming out of the woodwork ever since.

My husband has been sort of sneaky about these emails, and I see them by chance when he has his account open . I am not so much upset by the friendship that might be, as by the hiding and deceiving that is going on, as well as these still single women and their bold attempts to remain in contact (when they have had nothing to do with him for a long time).

I would like feedback on how to deal with this - he says there is nothing going on and I do believe him, but I don't trust the intentions of these other still-single women.

[WildChild]

Send them a wedding picture.

[baja]

Velvetnose, this sounds too coincidental and suspicious to me. My hunch is that he has initiated contacted with them all.

Maybe it's me, but a good portion of my ex's have completely fallen off the face of the earth, i.e. they moved on and didn't look back. So, to me, for three to suddenly pop out of the woodwork sets off an alarm.

I also don't like the sound of his sneakiness. Everything may be legit, but I'd watch this closely if I were you!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

"Long time no see" is a good thing, much better than "Thanks for last night" don't you think? (smile).

But, it does also suggest that contact has only just been made.

I would look differently, if he always talked to past relations and girls in general than just starting.

You need to ask him why?

CW

[mr.mansview]

i agree with baja