[E & Em]

So am I over reacting or not....

I am 9 months pregnant and am due with our 3rd child in about a week. My husband had to go out of town for 2 days for work. He never once called to check in on me or make sure things were ok.

I am so furious with him. I feel as though if he really loved me he would care about me and baby #3. He should have called reguardless if I was pregnant or not. But ESPECIALLY me being due anyday now...

He doesn't see why I am so upset!!!!!!!!!

We've been together for 11 years, married for 7.
Thanks for any advice!

[mr.mansview]

So am I over reacting or not....

I am 9 months pregnant and am due with our 3rd child in about a week. My husband had to go out of town for 2 days for work. He never once called to check in on me or make sure things were ok.

I am so furious with him. I feel as though if he really loved me he would care about me and baby #3. He should have called reguardless if I was pregnant or not. But ESPECIALLY me being due anyday now...

He doesn't see why I am so upset!!!!!!!!!

We've been together for 11 years, married for 7.
Thanks for any advice!

unfortunately he's being a man..we're just inconsiderate at times, but this should not be one of those times..he really dropped the ball on this one

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Let me ask you...

"cause men don't think sometimes" haha sorry Dr Mansview...

Do you have family close by and friends nearby?

Is the hospital far away, or there is someone you can call at a drop of a hat if it comes early?

I'm betting he's thinking, baby's not due for a week, I'm gone two days only, nothing will happen, besides, mum's there, or whom ever, it's cool...

They just don't think sometimes.

You must be excited as well, as feeling peeved... and a bit anxious in waiting and off course wanting support, why wouldn't you...

But, yeah I tend to think men don't think, they figure you've got it all worked out and there's time anyway, hope you don't have the baby whilst he's away..

Keep smiling, your little bubs will be here soon.

CW

[Guest]

Does he have a mobile phone?

If he does and he didn't call, I'd be asking myself what the he was doing in the evenings after the workday.

You have every right to be upset or feel weird about the situation.

How's your relationship otherwise?

[Hopeless Dork]

I don't think you are overreacting. I am not pregnant or in any state of emergency and when my boyfriend goes out of town on business he makes it a point to call me before bed always, and when time allows... texting me occasionally or sending me pictures of things he see's on his trip.

He knows this makes me feel included and special but to be fair, I asked him for this and he does it to make me happy. Did you ask your husband to call or are you just assuming he would (you would be correct in assuming he should by the way... just curious if he said he would and didn't).

Men (and women sometimes of course) can see things differently than we do. In relationships to keep both parties happy its important to set expectations. "It would make me so happy if you called me when you get off the plane, so I know you are safe". That is an expectation you set... so they know, okay, I should call - it will make her happy. Even if its something they think is pointless, if they know how you feel about it they may compromise and do it for you.

[E & Em]

Thanks....

He normally calls and tells the kids good night etc...and we chat. He normally calls me when he arrives and when he is leaving too.

He has a mobile phone...no excuse not to call except he doesn't have his priorities straight (in my eyes).

Otherwise our relationship is pretty good. It's not perfect but that's to be expected. I just told him I feel as though he was acting like I was his roommate and not his wife.

I am covered with the kids.

I just can't believe him. He acts as though everything is peachy and really doesn't care that I am upset about it.

[WildChild]

Sometimes people just get swamped. If he was in a strange place attending meetings, training sessions and such it can be really easy for time to get away from you. Most companies keep this stuff much leaner than they used to and expect their people to just go, go, go. Although a business professional, he may not have mastered the ability to easily say to business collegues that he is meeting with or in discussion with, "excuse me but I need to take a couple minutes to make a call". It could be that by the time he felt he had the time and an appropriate setting to call it was too late. What does he say about what happened?