[darla69]

My husband called me after work this afternoon to say he was stopping to have a drink or two with some work buddies. That was over 4 hours ago and I haven't heard from him since. This may not sound strange to some but first of all he's always home within 2 hours, most times an hour. Second, he hasn't called me once, which is veryout of character for him. I'm suspecting another woman because while on our bank website paying bills(an hour ago) there was a charge from the restaurant he was at. That means he left the restaurant over an hour ago. Again, if he went somewhere else he always calls me, this is very unlike him. Let me add, we've been fighting some the past few days about little things...This morning he woke up late and took his time getting ready for work saying I'll just go in an hour late and say I overslept. I got ****ed and said so. Guess what I'm saying is with us fighting he might not be feeling to close to me.
My question...what do I say to him when he comes home? My stomach is in knots and my head is spinning.
Darla

[WildChild]

You may be findind a button and sewing on a vest, to use any old cliche. Turning a molehill into a mountain? He may have gone to another place, gotten engaged in conversation, you just can't jump to such damming conclusions without more evidence. Is there more to this? Has he been unfaithful in the past?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

My husband called me after work this afternoon to say he was stopping to have a drink or two with some work buddies. That was over 4 hours ago and I haven't heard from him since. This may not sound strange to some but first of all he's always home within 2 hours, most times an hour. Second, he hasn't called me once, which is veryout of character for him. I'm suspecting another woman because while on our bank website paying bills(an hour ago) there was a charge from the restaurant he was at. That means he left the restaurant over an hour ago. Again, if he went somewhere else he always calls me, this is very unlike him. Let me add, we've been fighting some the past few days about little things...This morning he woke up late and took his time getting ready for work saying I'll just go in an hour late and say I overslept. I got ****ed and said so. Guess what I'm saying is with us fighting he might not be feeling to close to me.
My question...what do I say to him when he comes home? My stomach is in knots and my head is spinning.
Darla

Darla, why do I feel that this all started from "this morning" the fact that he took his time getting ready.

Why does he come home after 1hr, or 2hrs?

Why does he call you all the time?

Why did you check up on the credit card over the nett?

Why did you get ****ed really, I mean really, that he was getting ready slowly a better shirt? A better shave?

I'm pretty sure that I know the answers or should I say what you would if you returned, reply to.

You have to trust your partner irrespective if they cheat and hurt you, so be it...

You can't continue to check up on them....

You can't be extremely in-secure or jealous, or possessive .. because, it's one main key/reason why people break up....

And, I don't think that's what you want.

You can't jump to conclusions either, you've been fighting this week maybe he just decided to stand up for himself for once and not have to check in with you for once.

No where here did you mention:-

"OMG what if he had an accident?"....

See what I mean?

CW

[Joy]

I"m so sorry you feel this way but you can't smother him. Even if he was cheating you can't control that. Maybe you guys need to go do something fun together instead of it always being serious and about all the problems and the BS and everyone elses problems ect ect...

why was that your impression cause he looked hot going out the door?

[rcoreyus]

I don't intend to be mean, but if my wife is late coming home from somewhere, my first thought is "is she OK". If your first thought is that he may be doing something wrong, there is a serious trust problem (which he may deserve).

In any case, what I think you should say to him is "Are you all right". If he did have a problem that will sit much better than a suspicious question. If he was doing something wrong, perhaps the guilt will keep him from doing it again.

[Guest]

Any update?

What was the cause for the delay?

[Ahryin]

I think he maybe just wanted some time to himself. You yourself stated you guys have been arguing over some small things. I wouldn't just jump to he is cheating unless you are feeling guilty for lusting over someone or cheating previously or he has done it before. Honestly I would do nothing but make things more enjoyable at home trying to get to the root of the issue