They "play" like that? If you were driving an hour to meet a man for dinner that you "play" with , work with, that sends you suggestive pictures of sexy lingerie.. etc etc... if you've admited to lying your fiance about seeing this man, pretending to be lunching with a female friend... how would HE feel about that?
My guess? Not that happy? But let me guess something else, you'd never do that to him in a million years and if something like that was happening, innocent even, and he asked you to stop, that he didnt like it... you probably would.
The fact that he can't see this from any angle but his own, and what makes HIm happy in the moment, that he's willing to lie, and hide things, cover up, then flat out admit he's not going to alter that at all to save you hurt -- gotta wonder if he cares enough for your feelings to marry him. I know I would wonder that.
You have a baby, and you love this man, so this can't be easy. But if hanging out and 'playing' with this person is more important than your feelings... there is a problem. How is the rest of your relationship minus this situation? Does he make you feel special and loved, desired, are you happy? If you didn't know about those emails, the going to meet her, etc... would you feel something was off in your relationship?
I know you went searching because of how secretive he was being about the phone... but if he weren't acting that way about the phone, if you never got suspicious about this lady -- would everything else be good and happy? Or is he treating you differently?
My guess? Not that happy? But let me guess something else, you'd never do that to him in a million years and if something like that was happening, innocent even, and he asked you to stop, that he didnt like it... you probably would.
The fact that he can't see this from any angle but his own, and what makes HIm happy in the moment, that he's willing to lie, and hide things, cover up, then flat out admit he's not going to alter that at all to save you hurt -- gotta wonder if he cares enough for your feelings to marry him. I know I would wonder that.
You have a baby, and you love this man, so this can't be easy. But if hanging out and 'playing' with this person is more important than your feelings... there is a problem. How is the rest of your relationship minus this situation? Does he make you feel special and loved, desired, are you happy? If you didn't know about those emails, the going to meet her, etc... would you feel something was off in your relationship?
I know you went searching because of how secretive he was being about the phone... but if he weren't acting that way about the phone, if you never got suspicious about this lady -- would everything else be good and happy? Or is he treating you differently?
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